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Video on How to Break Social Rules Politely by Aspergers from the Inside

Discussion in 'Friends, Family & Social Skills' started by LucyPurrs, Oct 10, 2018.

  1. LucyPurrs

    LucyPurrs NT, INFJ V.I.P Member

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    A brief but excellent strategy for doing the above- recommend it highly.


     
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    BraidedPony Just another person V.I.P Member

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    Did you want to include a link?
     
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    Pats Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    Excuse me while I have a meltdown. :)
    Actually I used to think that you could say absolutely anything to anyone if you said it in a nice way. I'm now thinking that might not be true.
     
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    LucyPurrs NT, INFJ V.I.P Member

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    DUH, I'm so sorry I forgot to . Let me add it.
     
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    BraidedPony Just another person V.I.P Member

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    I don’t think it’s true Pats but heck if I know. It seems no matter what I do it’s wrong....with people. I’m doing ok with my new strategy here where I moved a few months ago. I keep conversations short and upbeat. That way there is less chance for miscommunication and I just want to get along with my neighbors.
    I no longer care if people vote, recycle their plastic, adopt a dog from the pound instead of paying $1,000 at a pet store that uses puppy mills.
    Well, I care but I keep my opinions to myself for a change!
     
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    BraidedPony Just another person V.I.P Member

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    LucyPurrs obviously doesn’t have OCD!! Lol
     
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  7. Pats

    Pats Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    I enjoyed the video, but did he say he tells people he injured his hand by shaking hands? If he did - that sounds a bit insulting. If not, my hearing isn't that great anymore. :)
     
  8. Autistamatic

    Autistamatic He's just this guy, you know?

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    He did...
    Interesting and useful video but I think those techniques are quite limited in their application. Sure they will work in situations where you are not regularly meeting the same people (in the street, on a train, at a conference as mentioned) but if you tried to apply the same principles in the workplace, for example, you'd only get away with it for a short time.
    You cannot permanently wear a bandage or knit at your workstation, wear headphones/dark glasses indoors, explain that you sit down all day etc...
    I actually used to get up from my desk quite frequently whilst on the phone and explained it by saying (truthfully) that sitting still for too long aggravated my arthritis, whilst my real reason was more a way of coping with difficult calls. It didn't take long before I was told that "someone had complained" and I would have to stop.
     
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    Someone complained? People!!!
    And I agree, but still think in any case the comment would come off as a preplanned rudeness. :)
     
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    BraidedPony Just another person V.I.P Member

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    The person that complained is probably the person that heats up stinky leftovers in the office microwave, laughs too loud on personal calls, takes cig breaks every half hour and walks by wafting cig smoke....
    That’s not mentioning the perfume and gossiping!
    Ok, rant over!
     
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