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The Spoiler King
Hmm I figured I'd make a post in the hope of getting a better understanding of the opposite sex, seeing as how I can be completely clueless at times.
So here's my dilemma my "wife" and me are currently separated. We seem to be communicating better then we have in years. Over the last 2 weeks she's flip flopped saying we'll never be together, we can't be together, just accept that were not together right now, I don't want you to make any plans for the future (when I mentioned getting my own place, I'm currently sleeping at my parents), I just need to work on myself right now, I still love you but right now this is for the best and other similar things.
Her actions are that she is either taking advantage of me or she doesn't really want to let go. I believe it's the latter because she isn't the type to take advantage of people knowingly. Nothing has really changed other than we're not hanging out outside of our house and I'm not sleeping there. I still go there everyday, our finances haven't changed, I help out around the house and she supports me emotionally when I've broken down. We've been together for 10 years and I feel that I know who she is, she's been holding onto some serious resentments for a longtime and recently started trying to address abuse issues from her past along with the resentments she's been feeling for the past few years.
I've never separated with a spouse before and I don't claim to understand women so it's difficult for me to truly understand what's going on at times without taking it personally, I've been addressing my issues relating to our relationship issues and feel that there's some serious progress being made on my part.
I'm just curious about some female insight on the situation or any sort of advice if people have been in a similar situation?
So here's my dilemma my "wife" and me are currently separated. We seem to be communicating better then we have in years. Over the last 2 weeks she's flip flopped saying we'll never be together, we can't be together, just accept that were not together right now, I don't want you to make any plans for the future (when I mentioned getting my own place, I'm currently sleeping at my parents), I just need to work on myself right now, I still love you but right now this is for the best and other similar things.
Her actions are that she is either taking advantage of me or she doesn't really want to let go. I believe it's the latter because she isn't the type to take advantage of people knowingly. Nothing has really changed other than we're not hanging out outside of our house and I'm not sleeping there. I still go there everyday, our finances haven't changed, I help out around the house and she supports me emotionally when I've broken down. We've been together for 10 years and I feel that I know who she is, she's been holding onto some serious resentments for a longtime and recently started trying to address abuse issues from her past along with the resentments she's been feeling for the past few years.
I've never separated with a spouse before and I don't claim to understand women so it's difficult for me to truly understand what's going on at times without taking it personally, I've been addressing my issues relating to our relationship issues and feel that there's some serious progress being made on my part.
I'm just curious about some female insight on the situation or any sort of advice if people have been in a similar situation?