Trying to improve

[aj]

sounds good generally, you are going in the right direction. i also can send to many messages and i think many aspies are similar, its probably best to explain Asperger's rather than trying to explain over messaging, but im sure if you have got this far she doesn't mind, if she does mind she probably would have told you. hope all goes well.

Yeah i do that alott aswell, she does get annoyed by it but its hard from what goes on in my head and how it makes me feel. I try my best to not do it but i convince myself to do it. But its something i got to work on

 

[Tom]

Theres a few times you must be bold in life. This is one. Be yourself and don't let anxiety hold you back. A person will either like you or not, but you want that evaluation to be based on the real you, not the too-nervous-to-speak distortion.

If anxiety starts to come on, maybe come up with a mental image to deal with it. This is a trick I and some others use, though what you chose specifically image-wise is whatever works for you. Like grabbing the 'anxiety' and throwing it out the window... or stuffing it in the blender and hitting 'on' like in Gremlins.

 

[overthehills]

Keep up the good work aj, be yourself and never feel ashamed of yourself, we are all beautiful in our own little way. It's been a long time for me the dating part but I struggled, did some silly things which looking back explains a lot now I'm diagnosed. Explain to her all about you the ups and the downs you may have, the difficulties you face. I used to write letters to her explaining how I feel, she kept them all. Looking back at them my favourite is a Blondie card I did, I wrote inside covering 5 sides with Blondie songs and lyrics fitted into what I wanted to say. Maybe a themed letter about something she likes will show her how much effort and thought you have put into it.

 

[paloftoon]

If doing something in-person ever becomes or seems too much, remember any other mode of communication pretty much (phone, e-mail, text, IM, etc.) gives you potentially at least "one more second or more" to think about what you do/say before you respond.