Told not to pursue diagnosis

[Siobhan]

My parents can help me pay for an autism assessment right now, but that could change within the next couple of years. They should have been able to retire by now and they can't partly because of me.
I called to get an autism assessment set up and they asked me if I'm trying to get special accommodations for work or school. Since I said no, so they referred me to a vocational and rehabilitation organization in their area because I'm need job help the most urgently.
They were really helpful and trying to save me money, but
I'm scared that I'll go there and they'll say I'm fine like the other job centers I've gone to and send me off with a list of steps I've already had memorized for years but somehow still can't effectively follow which is why I need help in the first place.
I want to do better and I'm so scared it's just going to be more of the same..

 

[Suzanne]

I hear you so much.

I am going to see a psychiatrist for the first time, thursday and to say that I have trepidation is rather an understatement! I chose to get an official diagnosis for extreme social phobia, because the country I am residing in, does not recognise aspergers and I really cannot be doing or have the confidence to go and seek a diagnosis for that.

My husband actually got the dr to word a letter or recommendation to say that HE wants me to be diagnosed for social phobia, with the notion that I would be seen earlier and oh my, that has proved true.

I am so scared that he or she is going to laugh in my face, but my husband says he will be in there with me and he will outline my "symptoms" and I know he will, because for year he has thought me a bit bizarre, with how extreme my phobia is with people.

So, is there anything else you "suffer" from beside the suspected aspergers? Because if there is, you could try for that?

The worst part is having to come across as very weak, because any notion of "strength", will not get what I need. When I had a chance of driving a car that does not need a licence, for the first time, I felt free of social phobia, but hubby has told me to not say that, because then they may conclude that I am not as bad as that, when in fact, there is no way I can afford one of these cars.

 

[Streetwise]

My parents can help me pay for an autism assessment right now, but that could change within the next couple of years. They should have been able to retire by now and they can't partly because of me.
I called to get an autism assessment set up and they asked me if I'm trying to get special accommodations for work or school. Since I said no, so they referred me to a vocational and rehabilitation organization in their area because I'm need job help the most urgently.
They were really helpful and trying to save me money, but
I'm scared that I'll go there and they'll say I'm fine like the other job centers I've gone to and send me off with a list of steps I've already had memorized for years but somehow still can't effectively follow which is why I need help in the first place.
I want to do better and I'm so scared it's just going to be more of the same..

in the UK there is an office for the disabled to help and I say the term help very loosely find work it is not for people who are not disabled -we used to have an organisation called Remploy which are no longer operates but was for disabled people who could not find employment elsewhere.
that's probably what they are offering you -it's an alternative to university it's the same idea as grammar schools and technical colleges apart from the fact that you could study technology at University.
there is a college for people who are autistic in my city but I don't think there are many in the UK ,so what they're offering you probably adapts to autism.
if they see enough autistic people they will probably discern that you are autistic .

 

[LucyPurrs]

My parents can help me pay for an autism assessment right now, but that could change within the next couple of years. They should have been able to retire by now and they can't partly because of me.
I called to get an autism assessment set up and they asked me if I'm trying to get special accommodations for work or school. Since I said no, so they referred me to a vocational and rehabilitation organization in their area because I'm need job help the most urgently.
They were really helpful and trying to save me money, but
I'm scared that I'll go there and they'll say I'm fine like the other job centers I've gone to and send me off with a list of steps I've already had memorized for years but somehow still can't effectively follow which is why I need help in the first place.
I want to do better and I'm so scared it's just going to be more of the same..

I'm scared that I'll go there and they'll say I'm fine like the other job centers I've gone to and send me off with a list of steps I've already had memorized for years but somehow still can't effectively follow which is why I need help in the first place.

I'd tell them exactly that.

 

[Mr Allen]

in the UK there is an office for the disabled to help and I say the term help very loosely find work it is not for people who are not disabled -we used to have an organisation called Remploy which are no longer operates but was for disabled people who could not find employment elsewhere.
that's probably what they are offering you -it's an alternative to university it's the same idea as grammar schools and technical colleges apart from the fact that you could study technology at University.
there is a college for people who are autistic in my city but I don't think there are many in the UK ,so what they're offering you probably adapts to autism.
if they see enough autistic people they will probably discern that you are autistic .

Meh, a few years ago I was under Remploy here in Sheffield, they were telling me to apply for jobs totally unsuitable, such as working at the Post Office doing manual heavy lifting, a disabled adult with back problems doing manual work? On what Planet is that anywhere near suitable?!

They also told me NOT to declare my disability on any application forms, what the hell?

 

[Siobhan]

I hear you so much.

I am going to see a psychiatrist for the first time, thursday and to say that I have trepidation is rather an understatement! I chose to get an official diagnosis for extreme social phobia, because the country I am residing in, does not recognise aspergers and I really cannot be doing or have the confidence to go and seek a diagnosis for that.

My husband actually got the dr to word a letter or recommendation to say that HE wants me to be diagnosed for social phobia, with the notion that I would be seen earlier and oh my, that has proved true.

I am so scared that he or she is going to laugh in my face, but my husband says he will be in there with me and he will outline my "symptoms" and I know he will, because for year he has thought me a bit bizarre, with how extreme my phobia is with people.

So, is there anything else you "suffer" from beside the suspected aspergers? Because if there is, you could try for that?

The worst part is having to come across as very weak, because any notion of "strength", will not get what I need. When I had a chance of driving a car that does not need a licence, for the first time, I felt free of social phobia, but hubby has told me to not say that, because then they may conclude that I am not as bad as that, when in fact, there is no way I can afford one of these cars.

I've been diagnosed with depression, add, and generalized and social anxiety. There isn't really a lot of structural support for depression and anxiety other than lip service and I've found the services that do exist focus on stuff I've done a lot of work on already and I need something more tailored to autism and work, which this place apparently is. I just tried to phone them and they're on lunch or something so I'm going to try again.
I'm trying to plan it so I walk the line between appearing "weak" enough to need help as you mentioned, but not so much so that they recommend I go on disability which is a kiss of death here.

 

[Siobhan]

in the UK there is an office for the disabled to help and I say the term help very loosely find work it is not for people who are not disabled -we used to have an organisation called Remploy which are no longer operates but was for disabled people who could not find employment elsewhere.
that's probably what they are offering you -it's an alternative to university it's the same idea as grammar schools and technical colleges apart from the fact that you could study technology at University.
there is a college for people who are autistic in my city but I don't think there are many in the UK ,so what they're offering you probably adapts to autism.
if they see enough autistic people they will probably discern that you are autistic .

From the looks of their website, you're probably right. They seem like a good organization and I'm hoping to get real help this time.

 

[Siobhan]

Meh, a few years ago I was under Remploy here in Sheffield, they were telling me to apply for jobs totally unsuitable, such as working at the Post Office doing manual heavy lifting, a disabled adult with back problems doing manual work? On what Planet is that anywhere near suitable?!

They also told me NOT to declare my disability on any application forms, what the hell?

I'm freaked out because of this too. Much respect to anybody who can hack the food service industry but I don't want to be sentenced to a life of Tim Hortons or mall cleaning, two alarmingly common job placements disabled people get here.

 

[Streetwise]

From the looks of their website, you're probably right. They seem like a good organization and I'm hoping to get real help this time.

just looked at something called Hawkins Institute based in Toronto it said it's online courses for people with Aspergers syndrome if you go to the website it tells you the fees I couldn't find that there was another website called autism junction in Canada that's a directory of services hope this helps

 

[Siobhan]

just looked at something called Hawkins Institute based in Toronto it said it's online courses for people with Aspergers syndrome if you go to the website it tells you the fees I couldn't find that there was another website called autism junction in Canada that's a directory of services hope this helps

This place looks really good too! I realized that the other place I phoned is closed today because there's a provincial holiday today.