Thanks for letting us know.
This TV programme however doesn't exactly do much for the confidence of people with Tourette's, autism or other conditions when they see people featured on this TV programme being classed as "undateable" entirely because of these conditions. People with all these conditions are dateable, a lot comes down to confidence.
If you know he can't help it, why say you think it's inappropriate?
I have Tourette's, and I can't help my tics, inappropriate or not. It's like saying "the fact that some people on the spectrum can't make eye contact and have meltdowns is rude and inappropriate, but I know they can't help it."
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@Rich Allen's defence, occasionally when people write something, a particular way of wording they didn't notice at the time can be interpreted in a negative or even in an offensive manner, I know he meant no offence however (it's happened to me on a few occasions in the past, usually when I least expected it). I will now write what I believe he meant (
@Rich Allen please correct me if I'm wrong): If a person started calling women "cougars", swearing a lot and the person could help it and therefore did it deliberately this behaviour would be seen as inappropriate by the vast majority of people, it is acceptable behaviour in this case however since he knows the person has
Tourette's syndrome and therefore can't help it.
Unfortunately some people who either don't understand or don't want to understand still see people who have certain
tics associated to Tourette's as inappropriate and similarly some people who don't understand autism will see not making eye contact as rude and meltdowns as inappropriate. Members of this community including yourself and
@Rich Allen however know that this is totally wrong as we know better, but it sadly doesn't stop many others seeing it that way and unfortunately that's why many people with Tourette's and autism are still often prejudiced against in modern society, even though things have improved somewhat in recent years with better education and awareness there's still a long way to go in my opinion. If this wasn't the case then why is a person with Tourette's syndrome appearing on a TV programme called "
The Undateables" in the first place? If they were treated equally and fairly there wouldn't be any issue with dating and similarly I've seen a person who is autistic on the TV programme. In a way the whole TV programme is prejudiced against people with Tourette's and autism by even suggesting that they're undateable because of the condition, especially with only Tourette's syndrome because people with autism can have communication issues and other challenges that aren't prejudice related (not that they can't be overcome however, they often are). If people had absolutely no prejudice against people with Tourette's they'd have exactly the same chances with dating as anyone else, they wouldn't even particularly lack confidence since they'd know that they'd be totally accepted by everyone no matter what tics they have (that would be a perfect world).
