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The consequences of me "not coming out" as Aspie... (tell me if you can relate)

Only a few accept I have aspergers, but in truth, I do not think they retain that, despite seeing me a lot and seeing traits coming forward!

Others laugh, because I look so normal and then come out with: you never hush up or you are too quiet!

I do sometimes think that if I looked abnormal life would be a bit easier in that department.
 
I told this one female and it was like two minutes from telling her, that she say it in action and then, about a couple of week's later she noticed my colour coordination and said: ah? You have ocd don't you? I did not respond, but thought: wow!
 
Suzanne said:
Only a few accept I have aspergers, but in truth, I do not think they retain that, despite seeing me a lot and seeing traits coming forward!

Others laugh, because I look so normal and then come out with: you never hush up or you are too quiet!

I do sometimes think that if I looked abnormal life would be a bit easier in that department.
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Oh, I get that very often, too "you are too quiet, you have to tell more about yourself". I don't know how to respond so I ignore it usually.

I've just been recently diagnosed. I don't see the point of telling. Especially at work there is one colleague only knowing about it, but I would rather not inform our manager. I'm a bit afraid that it might be used against me. My family knows about it and a few close friends.
 
Uncertain ways said:
Oh, I get that very often, too "you are too quiet, you have to tell more about yourself". I don't know how to respond so I ignore it usually.

I've just been recently diagnosed. I don't see the point of telling. Especially at work there is one colleague only knowing about it, but I would rather not inform our manager. I'm a bit afraid that it might be used against me. My family knows about it and a few close friends.
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How did your colleague find out and can you trust him or her to not spread this? I can understand why you would fear that, but can you wear the "mask" effectivily? I know that I am terrible for being able to do that!
 
Suzanne said:
How did your colleague find out and can you trust him or her to not spread this? I can understand why you would fear that, but can you wear the "mask" effectivily? I know that I am terrible for being able to do that!
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We had good contact when I told her about one year ago. I was just starting the process of getting diagnosed back then. She told me also about her private issues that is why I trusted her. This year we had unfortunately a conflict. The situation is now relaxed though, so I hope she will keep it to herself.

Yes, I think I can wear the mask. Mainly by not talking too much, they think I am just shy. But I believe it is apparent that I am not connecting well in group settings, I can't do small talk. But nobody made a comment to me so far. As for the work I am getting frustrated when I have to switch roles in the company too often due to sick leave of other colleagues. We are only with 9 persons. I need more time to adapt. After adapting to the new role I feel more comfortable.
 
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