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The Bronze Age: Lucy Bronze talks candidly about neurodivergence and proving people wrong

Aeolienne

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The Bronze Age: Lucy Bronze talks candidly about neurodivergence and proving people wrong​

England’s most decorated female footballer has made net gains from not fitting the mould. As the Lionesses enter Euro 2025 as defending champions, Lucy Bronze talks about her team’s chances, life after her ADHD and autism diagnoses and why she doesn’t fear her career’s final whistle

It’s one of spring 2025’s Mediterranean afternoons when the face of Lucy Bronze appears on my laptop screen. The blue of her Chelsea top is a dead ringer for the sky above the London training fields and she’s beaming for reasons unrelated to the weather. The night before we speak, her team trounced Crystal Palace 4-0, edging within touching distance of the Women’s Super League title – a feat they’ll go on to achieve a week later, beating Manchester United with a single headed goal from their star defender. Then she flashes another reason for the grin – a ring on her right hand.

There’s no diamond, but for the athlete once ranked the best female footballer in the world by Uefa and Fifa, this slim black band contains something more precious: data. It’s part of an arsenal of performance-optimising tools – sleep-tracking, saunas, red-light therapy, supplements and installing an at-home ice bath – that the oldest Lioness is using to balance a relentless club schedule with staying at the top of her game ahead of England’s first Euros match against France on 5 July.

A shared enthusiasm for the field Lucy calls ‘small gains’ sees me immediately disregard the first rule of celebrity journalism – delicately break the ice with impersonal small talk. Somehow, our ice-breaker segues straight to the 33-year-old’s ovaries and in less time than it would take to discuss her commute to work, I’m prying into her periods.

‘There’s a phase in my menstrual cycle when I’m physically capable of doing more and can train even harder, it’s insane,’ she tells me of her Euros prep, with an excitability most of us reserve for summer Fridays. ‘Men – they’re just this baseline the whole time. Whereas we can “periodise” training around the four phases of the cycle and get a lot of benefit. Research is quite low-level at the minute…’ Lucy – the sports science graduate – clarifies, in one of many times during our conversation when I feel as if I’m chatting through an article idea with a WH colleague. ‘But it’s like I’ve been given a superpower for a week.’

Euro vision​

Most would argue that Lucy’s superpowers are markedly more timeless. Beginning her senior career in 2007, she’s played as a defender for some of the best clubs in England – Liverpool, Manchester City and, since 2024, Chelsea – plus European powerhouses Barcelona and Lyon. (Adding Spanish and French skills to being raised bilingual by her Portuguese father, Lucy – real name Lucia – often translates for Chelsea’s international players). After Chelsea won the FA Cup last month, she became the first player to win the domestic treble – three major domestic competitions within the same season – in three countries and she’s won the Champions League five times (for context, my husband credits the elation of Barcelona winning the Champions League one year as the reason he proposed to me). An England staple since 2013, Lucy became a household name as a cornerstone of the team that beat Germany to win Euro 2022.

Does having brought football home once already ease some of the pressure going into this tournament, I wonder, or pile on even more? ‘It’s a bit of everything,’ she reflects. ‘What we’ve spoken about [as a team] is that we admire what we’ve done in the past, being the Euros winners. But we’re a “new England” going into this and we’ll create our own history.’ The squad’s self-proclaimed ‘bossy mum’, Lucy hopes this new England approach will lighten the load for the new Lioness cubs. ‘There are people going to the Euros and it’ll be their first ever tournament wearing an England shirt. You want them to enjoy that. And I think taking away that pressure is a great way for them to do it.’

Ahead of the competition in Switzerland – ‘10 days when the only time we’re apart is when we go to bed’ (and yes, Lucy smiles, they do get a bit sick of each other) – squad contact stays within the group chat. Club matches ended in mid-May, when players were granted 10 days’ holiday. But while she suspects some of her teammates will give short shrift to manager Sarina Wiegman’s plea to ‘be sensible’ when they’re OOO (‘the girls tend to do what they want,’ she laughs), Lucy’s eyes are never far from the prize. ‘Yeah, I’m always thinking about the Euros,’ she confirms. ‘I can’t not think about it. Everything I do is to play in the Euros and win the Euros. Though people who know me know that I am a little bit obsessed.’

Gatekeeping​

I suspect that ‘little bit’ is doing a lot of heavy lifting. Lucy’s fixation with football began in Northumberland in the 00s, when the sport became her salvation. ‘I got bullied when I was younger and had to move schools,’ she shares, of the worst of that time. Dyslexia frustrated written tasks, but she was smart, competitive and a natural at numbers – with cognitive processing that was steps ahead. ‘All these things could have been seen or used as a strength of mine, but they made me seem like a problem. It was, “She’s arrogant, she’s bossy, she’s not listening to others.” I wasn’t listening to others. But it wasn’t because I didn’t care, it was because I knew I was right.’

Lucy’s mum, a maths teacher, suspected her daughter was neurodivergent, but lingering stigma meant she shied away from seeking a diagnosis for her daughter. ‘I read stories that said they’re the kids who need to be put in the corner, which is exactly what mum didn’t want me labelled as.’ Instead, she stuck Lucy in every sport available – and her child came alive. ‘Off the pitch, I couldn’t even make conversation because I was so within myself. But when I was on the field, I was the most confident person in the world. When you’re doing something you love, it brings out the best in you and that’s what I had as a child with sport. Sport would unlock the gates of Lucy Bronze.’

When her older brother, Jorge, let her join in with him and his friends playing football, something clicked. ‘I fell in love with football because I loved that [Jorge] did it – and then I loved being in a team. I was painfully shy and sport was the only way I knew how to connect with people. You already have a common ground of: you’re playing football and you want to win. You don’t need to say anything else; you don’t need to explain yourself. I think that’s why I love sport so much, because it was obvious what I was trying to do without even speaking.’

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Fitting in

If Lucy’s long career let her footwork do the talking, that changed in March. In a BBC interview with friend, former Lioness and another former WH cover star Alex Scott, Lucy revealed that four years ago – on the suggestion of an England team psychologist – she was tested for, then diagnosed with, autism and ADHD. Speaking with her a month after the interview aired, I’m struck by how content she seems. Has the diagnosis her mum tried so valiantly to protect her from had the converse effect of empowering her?



‘Yeah, 100%. Mum put it in such a positive spin that I never saw it as a negative. She’d say, “How you act is just you, you’re Lucy and that’s part of you.” But then reading the [the psychologist’s report] I was like, “Wow, this is me. This is why there have been so many times where people don’t get what I’m trying to say and how I’m coming across.” I always speak about being misunderstood – and I think that I was misunderstood by myself, as well.’



As enlightening as it’s been to understand the neurological root of her behaviours, it’s seeing that openness paid forwards that truly lights Lucy up. ‘In the game last night, a little kid ran up to me and said, “You’re my idol, because I’m autistic and I have ADHD and I’m so proud of you for speaking about it.” I thought, “He’s proud of me?!” He’s seven! Because he’s seen someone else [with neurodivergent traits], he thought it was really cool.’ He isn’t the only one; adults have been stopping her in the street – especially women, often late-diagnosed – to thank her for talking about autism. ‘Doing that interview is the biggest reaction I’ve ever had to anything I’ve ever done in my whole career,’ she tells me, a little dumbfounded. ‘Even winning things football-wise or getting a degree or anything that I’ve done that I’ve had success with wouldn’t come close to the reaction I had from that.’



Days after listening to the interview, I was still thinking about Lucy’s description of her twenties – a period knew how she spent making herself ‘feel uncomfortable so that others felt more comfortable’. As someone who’s often to connect’ felt socially awkward, I empathise at the labour of having to “fake” social behaviours to fit in: the discomfort of holding eye contact and trying to appear warmer (Lucy would copy the naturally gregarious 2022 Euro squad member Jill Scott); hugging (which she still hates). Does she finally have the freedom to be herself? ‘I do… but because I’ve gained respect for what I’ve done on the football pitch,’ she says emphasising the caveat. ‘My autism is my superpower that’s made me successful – it makes me obsessed with things, it makes me want to do things extra, it makes me think 10 steps ahead – but I wish it didn’t take being a successful footballer for me to be free to be who I am,’ she continues. ‘That’s the thing: everything in the world is set for one generic way. If you don’t fit that standard, where do you fit in?’



I’m learning that there are two ways: sit back and accept your lot or do a Bronze and sharpen your elbows. Suffering four bad knee injuries by the time you’re 18 would have blown the whistle on most athletes’ careers; instead, Lucy wrote a university thesis on ACL (anterior cruciate ligament) injuries so she could learn how to do a full knee rehab. And frustrated by fashion’s blinkered representation of female athletes (‘it’s a long-standing thing in sport with sponsors and the players they try to push into the light that it’s more about their looks than their achievements,’ she critiques), in mid-September Lucy will front her second partnership with Aligne – the female-led British brand known for beautiful, accessible tailoring. As well as creating the perfect pair of pinstripe trousers to go from walking the dog to a meeting (featuring my love language: an elasticated waistband), the collection honours female strength. ‘I’ve found a space with Aligne where I’m actually celebrated as a footballer while being part of fashion… And at my age I probably shouldn’t be wearing tracksuits all the time,’ Lucy laughs.



Second half

Casual as you like, she’s brought up the elephant in the room: age. If anything underpins the ruthless brutality of elite sport, it’s discussing retirement at exactly half the age you can claim a state pension. As a writer, I have ChatGPT chasing my tail, but at least I got into my forties. Does her steps-ahead thinking extend to her own future? ‘I’m honest with myself. I’m still at the highest level, but I’m not as good as I was six years ago,’ she admits with the measured acceptance of someone intimately acquainted with the metrics. ‘I was the best player in the world at one point and I can’t quite reach that. I’m trying to learn to take off that “competitive Lucy” hat and be a little bit prouder of the things I have achieved.’ After losing the 2023 World Cup final to Spain, Lucy tells me, reporters immediately asked her if she’d retire – a level of scrutiny she suspects is reserved for women. ‘I think that’s something that for females is pointed out: your age, your looks, your biological clock. I don’t think it’s the same for men at all. But I quite enjoy the idea of, “Oh well, I’ll prove them wrong.”’



Talking to Lucy about her future, what strikes me most is the abundance of options. In 2020, interviewing thirtysomething athletes for WH ahead of the Tokyo Olympics, I recall their sense of plummeting into the abyss – destabilised by everything from losing their routine to having no idea what to do next. The following year, Alex Scott told me that she studied sports journalism towards the end of her football career to bat off the anticipated criticism that she didn’t deserve presenting gigs. But in 2025, something’s shifted. ‘I could get a corporate job. I could try to be part of the Federation or Fifa. I could help someone like Chelsea develop the women’s team,’ she says, reeling off her options. As for anything she hasn’t yet had time for? ‘I wouldn’t say there’s something I’m dying to do, apart from have a family. My brother’s got two kids and that’s what I’m most jealous of, seeing my niece and nephew. But there’s plenty of time for that – and what that looks like, I don’t know.’



Back in the here and now, it’s game on. ‘When we won the Euros, it was empowering to so many women who didn’t even like football,’ she recalls, of the bump the sport enjoyed following that victory – a bump that saw 1,500 new female teams register to play during the following seasons. ‘Seeing women succeed in “a man’s game” or “a man’s world” gave [a feeling of ] confidence and achievement. And for the men who loved football, but who maybe had a bit of underlying misogyny, they were like, “Do you know what, we love football and we’re so proud of these girls,”’ she continues. ‘I think football can help change society.’ When you’re thinking big, who needs small talk? Euro 2025: the defence is ready.

Lucy Bronze’s collaborative collection with Aligne launches in September.

Source: Women's Health
 

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