There are plenty of people out there who are terrible at "ego management". I think the phenomenon is far from limited to people on the spectrum.
I had an experience of poor "ego management" in the job I've posted about a few times now.
I hadn't been there long, but based on the general behaviour of my colleagues and their behaviour towards another member of staff, I had started to get the distinct impression that they were looking forward to me making a mistake that could be used as an excuse to berate me.
On this occasion I was told to put some equipment away in storage at the end of the work day. I encountered a huge mess of the stuff I was supposed to put away on the floor in the storage room. I didn't just want to dump the stuff on the floor so I hung the equipment up and improvised a quick solution to prevent them from falling down. I thought I would check in the morning on how the equipment was to be stored.
Next day I asked and I was informed of the correct way. So having a few things to do, I said I would correct the issue while I was on my rounds.
But I didn't get that far before another colleague stopped me on my way and demanded in a very angry tone that I get back to the office. When I got there he produced his phone with a picture of the 4 or 5 pieces of equipment I had been responsible for and in a raised aggressive voice demanded to know "DID YOU DO THIS?!" I agreed that I had, but before I could explain he started shouting (from about 6 inches away) "THAT IS UNACCEPTABLE!!" and gesticulating wildly at the floor.
This was really disproportionate, plus I had been on my way to sort it out. I had been "dobbed in" by the other colleague I spoke to.
I'm certain that this was just an excuse to shout and bawl at me so he could impress his authority on me.
It certainly wasn't necessary, he could have simply said "can you make sure you do it this way, not to worry, you've only been here a few weeks..." But no, he couldn't resist an opportunity to inflate his ego. He must have been over the moon to have finally found an excuse. He was certainly making the most of it!
In case you are wondering, my improvisation did not adversely effect the equipment in any way.
There were many examples of this. Not just towards myself either. Such a toxic place with so many toxic people. I'm glad to be out of there. But the experience certainly left its mark on me.