Stood up for myself to my grandfather

[SunnyDay16]

My grandfather tends to joke and give me a hard time about my quietness, but it has always kind of bothered me. I didn't want to really confront him about it though so I just let it roll off my back, but since my social anxiety is an area that I'm sensitive about I don't really like it when people tease me for it. Today I decided to send him an e-mail though to politely ask him to not do it.

My grandfather is the type who doesn't really have much of a filter, he just says what's on his mind without considering how others feel. He's not really good with social cues either so if something he has said has bothered me, he won't be able to tell just by looking at me. I don't care much if others tease me about my quietness, but if a family member does it it's harder for me to handle since I care a lot more what they think.

Do you guys feel it was necessary for me to confront him? I don't really like doing it, but this has been bothering me for a while and it makes me not really want to be around him.

 

[Fridgemagnetman]

Do you guys feel it was necessary for me to confront him? I don't really like doing it, but this has been bothering me for a while and it makes me not really want to be around him

You're standing up for your right to be treated with respect.

In a way it isn't 'confronting'

It's standing up for yourself and your boundaries.

Getting Self respect.

 

[LucyPurrs]

You're standing up for your right to be treated with respect.

In a way it isn't 'confronting'

It's standing up for yourself and your boundaries.

Getting Self respect.

Great reframing Fridge

 

[Observant]

Setting up and enforcing boundaries is healthy. You did it in a polite way, so I think you are golden.

 

[Tom]

People like that will never know unless you tell them. Now its up to him. No matter what happens he can't say you didn't try and tell him.

 

[tducey]

Good to hear, as your relative I would think he'd understand your traits, nice to see you stand up for yourself.

 

[balsabonbon]

I think that, if you felt it was necessary, then it was necessary.