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Still getting over the death of my dog...

TheGuyWithTheTacoma

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I love dogs. Always have. Always will!

My first dog was a Black Labrador Retriever named Molly. I was just a few months shy of my sixth birthday when I saw her for the first time. My parents bought her from an Amish farmer for like $280. She was very friendly and loved all people, but generally did not get along with other dogs. We still loved her and were devastated when we had to put her to sleep, but it was for the best. Molly lived to be 15 years old! This is highly unusual for a Labrador.

It was almost nine years before my parents got another dog, and this time we adopted. We went to one of those adoption events at a pet store in September 2018, and immediately fell in love with a white Corgi/Labrador mix named Mandy. We ended up keeping the name the rescue agency had given her. For the first month, everything seemed fine, but then we realized she was drinking excessively. Tests run by the same vet we took Molly to for the last four years of her life revealed kidney issues, but she didn't have the equipment to get to the bottom of it. My parents took Mandy to a specialist and an ultrasound revealed that she had Congenital Renal Dysplasia. She had been born with deformed kidneys, and they were only operating at 40% capacity. Her shortened lifespan was expected to be anywhere from a year to five years depending on a number of factors. We put her on low-protein prescription dog food which did wonders, and she did great for six months or so. In April or May 2019, she started to sleep a lot and slow down quite a bit. At first I thought it was adorable that she always wanted to sleep under my desk, but I started to realize this was not normal behavior. In the last month or so of her life, she became anemic, her appetite diminished, and her back leg muscles started to atrophy. She started licking the sidewalk because she thought she was getting some sort of nutrients from it. She also started chewing up the drywall for the same reason (it's November 2019 and we still haven't repaired this).

By the end of June 2019, we realized that two years old was totally unrealistic. We put her to sleep on the morning of July 1st, 2019. My parents had her cremated separately and we got her ashes back in a nice wooden box with her name on it.

The act of putting Mandy to sleep is not what upset us so much. Mandy was suffering and her quality of life had dwindled. Putting her to sleep was the most humane thing we could have done. The fact that we'd only had her for like ten months and she was barely a year old was what really hit hard. She did, however, probably have more fun in the ten months she was with us than many dogs have in their whole lives! Also, consider this; She was found in a box by the side of the road, along with her two siblings, in South Carolina. If someone else had adopted her, they might have given up way too early and and put her to sleep a lot sooner than we did. Mandy got to play with the neighbor's St. Bernard puppy just about every day of her life, and for the first four months or so that we had her, we took her to the "puppy social hour" at a local kennel.

Mandy​
June 30-July 9th, 2019 (est.)-July 1st, 2019​
 
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In the last month and a half or so of her life, Mandy loved curling up on the backpack under my desk and falling asleep; At first I thought it was adorable but then I realized it wasn't normal...

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Such an adorable dog! I can relate to the pain of having to put a pet to sleep after only having enjoyed their company for a short while. In 2003 I got a kitten, a beautiful and very cuddly critter. Within a month I noticed she had problems with her motor skills, often falling and failing jumps. Then she pretty much stopped eating while her belly kept swelling up. After a whole battery of tests it turned out she had feline infectious peritonitis (FIP), which is progressive and almost always fatal. She was suffering daily, so we had to say goodbye to her within three months of welcoming her into our home. I was sad for a very long time.
 
I think it's something you live with rather than get over.

I think about (and miss) my old Dobermann alot.
He was my stalker/shadow for 11 years.
(and completely awesome)

There's always that 'one in a million' animal we get attached to :)
 
You are right that she was fortunate to have the best owners and life possible under the circumstances. I love dogs too and it is as hard seeing them go as people. She continues on in a way because she is remembered.
 
I love dogs. Always have. Always will!

My first dog was a Black Labrador Retriever named Molly. I was just a few months shy of my sixth birthday when I saw her for the first time. My parents bought her from an Amish farmer for like $280. She was very friendly and loved all people, but generally did not get along with other dogs. We still loved her and were devastated when we had to put her to sleep, but it was for the best. Molly lived to be 15 years old! This is highly unusual for a Labrador.

It was almost nine years before my parents got another dog, and this time we adopted. We went to one of those adoption events at a pet store in September 2018, and immediately fell in love with a white Corgi/Labrador mix named Mandy. We ended up keeping the name the rescue agency had given her. For the first month, everything seemed fine, but then we realized she was drinking excessively. Tests run by the same vet we took Molly to for the last four years of her life revealed kidney issues, but she didn't have the equipment to get to the bottom of it. My parents took Mandy to a specialist and an ultrasound revealed that she had Congenital Renal Dysplasia. She had been born with deformed kidneys, and they were only operating at 40% capacity. Her shortened lifespan was expected to be anywhere from a year to five years depending on a number of factors. We put her on low-protein prescription dog food which did wonders, and she did great for six months or so. In April or May 2019, she started to sleep a lot and slow down quite a bit. At first I thought it was adorable that she always wanted to sleep under my desk, but I started to realize this was not normal behavior. In the last month or so of her life, she became anemic, her appetite diminished, and her back leg muscles started to atrophy. She started licking the sidewalk because she thought she was getting some sort of nutrients from it. She also started chewing up the drywall for the same reason (it's November 2019 and we still haven't repaired this).

By the end of June 2019, we realized that two years old was totally unrealistic. We put her to sleep on the morning of July 1st, 2019. My parents had her cremated separately and we got her ashes back in a nice wooden box with her name on it.

The act of putting Mandy to sleep is not what upset us so much. Mandy was suffering and her quality of life had dwindled. Putting her to sleep was the most humane thing we could have done. The fact that we'd only had her for like ten months and she was barely a year old was what really hit hard. She did, however, probably have more fun in the ten months she was with us than many dogs have in their whole lives! Also, consider this; She was found in a box by the side of the road, along with her two siblings, in South Carolina. If someone else had adopted her, they might have given up way too early and and put her to sleep a lot sooner than we did. Mandy got to play with the neighbor's St. Bernard puppy just about every day of her life, and for the first four months or so that we had her, we took her to the "puppy social hour" at a local kennel.

Mandy​
June 30-July 9th, 2019 (est.)-July 1st, 2019​

We had a Shetland Sheepdog that developed a type of blood cancer, that was identified at age 11 when a mass was removed from his colon. Following surgery he had several seizures or mini strokes over the next two years. Near the end of his life our dog exhibited the same behavior, licking the ceramic tile in our bathroom and sleeping excessively. We had him put to sleep in 2013 due to suffering from pain. I became upset when the veterinarian sent me a greeting card with his paw prints to remember him by. It bothered me that they would take paw prints, and I never have gotten over that loss.
 
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This story about Mandy was very touching. I have lost pets before, and for me the only remedy from the sadness was to get a new pet to shower my affection on.
 
Thank you for sharing that with us, what a lovely, touching story. How fortunate mandy was to find you!
I can totally relate to your grief, I feel terrible when I have to let one of my animals go. I try to tell myself it is the price I pay for having been allowed into their lives to love them.
 

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