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islandria

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Um. Just tried the above but I think it was meant for a title. I never do titles first. I'm quite scared because I've been reading about aspergers and high functioning autism and I did a test and scored quite high. I tried to be as honest as I could on the test but I'm turning 50 this year and feel that I'm so old to get a diagnosis so late in life. To be honest, the more I read about aspergers/autism the more I recognize myself and the more my life makes sense. I don't want to go into detail but I would like the awful scary feeling to go away. It makes me feel like a freak and even though others have considered me different I've never considered myself different so reading about autism/aspergers confronts me with the invitation to entertain the possibility of that maybe it was me all this time and not everybody else. That is a scary place to be. I rely heavily on a few people who are close to me to get a bigger/better perspective and I don't want to be a burden but I'm starting to think maybe I am. I think I just need time to process all the new information. I don't normally have anything to do with forums etc. But I might learn something.
 
I've been piecing it all together for the past year or more. Getting close to 60 years of age.

This is an excellent place to start. Welcome to AC.
 
Hi and welcome Islandria, I am 49 and was diagnosed late last year.
This a very friendly and helpfull place. I feel it about support and
encouragement here. we all struggle from time to time .
 
You are far from the only member here to be diagnosed/suspect a diagnosis in middle age and beyond! I think you'll find that it doesn't have to be all that scary, and maybe we can help with that. Welcome!
 
Welcome Islandria!
Please don't take this the

wrong way. I'm just curious (another word for insanely confused about), why do you have a picture of a toddler boy with the caption 'liar' and the sub-title 'Master liar' under your name? It greatly confuses me and invites me to mistrust you above all others. I'm sorry if you don't understand and/or have any interest in my question. I'm trying to be more friendly with my phone which is a large one and which my husband gifted to me last year. If you read between the lines you will find a person there which is what I try to do. I'm guessing you are in your early 30's. Just becsuse. I like hockey and it's just after lunch where I live. I have 4 grown children. 2 of them are married. I paint alot on canvas with acrylics but don't make any money. Contrsry to alot of people of my gender - I do like men. Most people don't understand me at all. I hope you don't mind my rambling at you. You did have the most space on your post.
 
A number of us struggle with using a phone, it is one of the reasons I don't have a mobile phone. As well I like to be able to get away from people and technology for a period of time each day.
 
I love my phone. I forgot it at my friend's house last Friday night and he coukdn't drop it off until late Saturday. I was bothered about it all day. I rely on it to use google andwikipedia all the time. I ddon't have a laptop. (I want a macbook) because I like writing and I wrote a book last August but I wrote it with a oen and notebooks. My phone is good for poetry and emsils and texting. How did you get diagnosed??
 
I was trying to find out why I collapsed several years ago and was referred to a general psychiatrist, who suspected I had aspergers. Then I got referred to a specialist in autism, where I found out I had aspergers and anxiety issues. Up to that point the doctors were only treating the symptoms and not the cause. My collapse was a complete shut down, due to much stress. I also have to retrain
my breathing as well
.

I too was reliant on a few people until I found the forum.
 
I was trying to find out why I collapsed several years ago and was referred to a general psychiatrist, who suspected I had aspergers. Then I got referred to a specialist in autism, where I found out I had aspergers and anxiety issues. Up to that point the doctors were only treating the symptoms and not the cause. My collapse was a complete shut down, due to much stress. I also have to retrain
my breathing as well
.

I too was reliant on a few people until I found the forum.
I'm just figuring out how to do this. The little window won't let me check my spelling. (If you leave the 'keyboard' the message gets lost. Normally I make sure all my words are spelled correctly. Anyways, yes, I'm really feeling like a burden to my husband because he has such a solid take on things and alot of common sense. His perception is grounded and I'm needing his perspective. But although it works for me a proper diagnosis would enable me to say, look, thisIis what I have. This is why I am like I am. I find the younger generation much more open and aware than my (our) generation was at their afe. They have it good with better diagnosis and education. I just don't know how to go about it. It was a nightmare getting my son to a psychiatrist to get diagnosed with schizophrenia. I don't want to go through that again. Like climbing a mountain backwards with your eyes closed while it's snowing.
 
Welcome :)

There are quite a few different people on here; some have been diagnosed (or self-diagnosed) early in life, and some later. Some have embraced their AS, and some are not quite so happy about it.

I hope that by coming here, you can at least find some answers to your questions, and we'll do what we can to answer them. Our members, and staff, are quite friendly and helpful, so I hope that you can feel safe here. You can take some comfort in knowing that you have not changed who you are, you have simply learned a possible truth.

If you do wish to get a diagnoses, I imagine most countries would be the same, and require a doctor's referral to a specialist of your choice.
 
I too like to make sure my spelling is correct too. A option you can use is to right click the text and then select spell check there.

If you can let us know what country your in I am sure a member will be able to you with getting a diagnosis for you. In New Zealand I was able to get help through social welfare and the local health board. That was what started the ball rolling for me. But I had trouble finding the right person to ask, for help.
 
I'm not sure if I can right click anything on my phone. I use a samsung note with a stylus pen. It has built in spellcheck but the interface at this site has a very small window. I downloaded the app but it looks impossible to use to write with. Anyway I live in a part of Canada where doctors are as hard to find as as the rainbow's proverbial pot of gold and we are left to meeting a stranger at random visits to walk-in clinics. That alone makes me feel anxious. I could easily be talked out of this as 'it all being in my head' and I would tend to agree with you, but my desire for my family and friends to understand me better and indeed my desire to understand myself better may just be powerful enough to slay that dragon. If anything, I have nothing to lose. It's getting up the guts to face the challenges that will result... What ifthere is no diagnosis? Then I will really be crazy indeed. I will be in a worse state than I already am. It's the other perspective that I need.. Someone not related. Someone not a friend. Someone schooled in these types of things, right? Just thinking about it makes me feel anxious. Anyway.
 
Sorry I can't help any more with the spell check. I made the asumption that you would be able right click, I only have a desk top to use.
I know there are a number of Canadian members on the forum, that may be able to with with a diagnosis.
 
Welcome to the freak kingdom, where the mind is kept open and you're free to be as you are.*

No need to be afraid. We're still all just regular human beings here. Some more regular than others, maybe some could be called rather irregular. I guess we're a pretty diverse bunch. But still just human beings.
Getting a diagnosis, or even just the idea of getting diagnosed can be very scary, and it's something that takes time to deal with, but having a label in itself doesn't change a thing. You've come this far without. Like you say, you are who you are. Maybe just try to see it as a pointer in the right direction to the information or help you were needing. As I found out it felt like finally finding some kind of manual to my life. That's overstating it a little, but at least I was getting some insight from people who seemed to have similar experiences with similar issues, which helped to find ways and make changes that actually helped. Sometimes all it takes is finding a different viewpoint or outlook to see solutions that work for you.

*at times a basic sense of consideration will be required, obviously
 
Please don't take this the wrong way. I'm just curious (another word for insanely confused about), why do you have a picture of a toddler boy with the caption 'liar' and the sub-title 'Master liar' under your name?
His avatar is a riff on a popular Internet meme called "Success Kid." It doesn't mean all that much. I'm assuming the subtitle is just meant to go with it.
 
Sorry I can't help any more with the spell check. I made the asumption that you would be able right click, I only have a desk top to use.
I know there are a number of Canadian members on the forum, that may be able to with with a diagnosis.

Haha. I thought you were younger than me;) Plus you have tricky ways of doing things - words that appear but not in both places. That is why you are a v.i.p...
 
That's a good="gonzerd, post: 121738, member: 121"]Welcome to the freak kingdom, where the mind is kept open and you're free to be as you are.*

No need to be afraid. We're still all just regular human beings here. Some more regular than others, maybe some could be called rather irregular. I guess we're a pretty diverse bunch. But still just human beings.
Getting a diagnosis, or even just the idea of getting diagnosed can be very scary, and it's something that takes time to deal with, but having a label in itself doesn't change a thing. You've come this far without. Like you say, you are who you are. Maybe just try to see it as a pointer in the right direction to the information or help you were needing. As I found out it felt like finally finding some kind of manual to my life. That's overstating it a little, but at least I was getting some insight from people who seemed to have similar experiences with similar issues, which helped to find ways and make changes that actually helped. Sometimes all it takes is finding a different viewpoint or outlook to see solutions that work for you.

*at times a basic sense of consideration will be required, obviously[/QUOTE]
That's a good perspective. Ican only see consideration in specific circumstances, otherwise it is just a kind of dogma to me. Also, is that avatar you or someone from The Walking Dead?
 
That's a good="gonzerd, post: 121738, member: 121"]Welcome to the freak kingdom, where the mind is kept open and you're free to be as you are.*

No need to be afraid. We're still all just regular human beings here. Some more regular than others, maybe some could be called rather irregular. I guess we're a pretty diverse bunch. But still just human beings.
Getting a diagnosis, or even just the idea of getting diagnosed can be very scary, and it's something that takes time to deal with, but having a label in itself doesn't change a thing. You've come this far without. Like you say, you are who you are. Maybe just try to see it as a pointer in the right direction to the information or help you were needing. As I found out it felt like finally finding some kind of manual to my life. That's overstating it a little, but at least I was getting some insight from people who seemed to have similar experiences with similar issues, which helped to find ways and make changes that actually helped. Sometimes all it takes is finding a different viewpoint or outlook to see solutions that work for you.

*at times a basic sense of consideration will be required, obviously
That's a good perspective. Ican only see consideration in specific circumstances, otherwise it is just a kind of dogma to me. Also, is that avatar you or someone from The Walking Dead?[/QUOTE] I didn't mean that as a comparison - it was an honest question not related to both parts at all. Sorry.
 
E That's very helpful to me. Thanks. I wasn't familiar with what a 'meme' is. post: 121739 said:
His avatar is a riff on a popular Internet meme called "Success Kid." It doesn't mean all that much. I'm assuming the subtitle is just meant to go with it.
Oh good. That's
 

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