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Social Issues at University

Bella Pines said it so well that I'd like to appropriate it for my classes. That is good advice for everyone whether they are on the spectrum or not.
 
I was in college for two years and made one "friend" and even that was not what friendships are made of.

At the ripe age of 48, I know a couple of ladies who I feel ok around and funnily enough, the one I feel completely at ease with, she is as "odd" as I am and that is why we get on.

I spent so long wondering what on earth I was doing wrong? I was perplexed because I thought I was doing what everyone else does, but as you describe, all I got was lukewarm responses and nothing more and I spent many a time in tears.

When I got to the point of: I don't care now, suddenly have a few friends.
 
So what's the consensus of the Southern English towards the Northern Irish?

Problematic by the region or just bad chemistry among individuals who may congregate together to give off a negative impression towards outsiders?

We have our share of regionalism as well, but their cultural barriers are slowly being broken down largely through mass migration of people and media.
 
Judge said:
So what's the consensus of the Southern English towards the Northern Irish?

Problematic by the region or just bad chemistry among individuals who may congregate together to give off a negative impression towards outsiders?

We have our share of regionalism as well, but their cultural barriers are slowly being broken down largely through mass migration of people and media.
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What religion are your southern English in the example?
 
Judge said:
Indeed. However please elaborate in more detail. Inquiring minds and all...;)
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Northern Ireland is split by religion fundamentally.

Or to express it politically '' was'.

Mix that in with a desire for a United Ireland principally among Catholics.

But it's all very complicated and sort of strays too far from general autism discussion...
 
Fridgemagnetman said:
Northern Ireland is split by religion fundamentally.

Or to express it politically '' was'.

Mix that in with a desire for a United Ireland principally among Catholics.

But it's all very complicated and sort of strays too far from general autism discussion...
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Quite the diplomat. :p

I think we should send Fridgetmagnetman to Singapore to help out Kim and the Donald. ;)

But still I just want to hear how this is relative to the Southern English in particular. o_O
 
Judge said:
So what's the consensus of the Southern English towards the Northern Irish?

Problematic by the region or just bad chemistry among individuals who may congregate together to give off a negative impression towards outsiders?

We have our share of regionalism as well, but their cultural barriers are slowly being broken down largely through mass migration of people and media.
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Northern Irish people are collective, keep together and generally don't come as offputting. The Southern English don't start conversations with you if they don't know you, and generally are anti-social compared with us.

Although we are a both part of the United Kingdom, I would describe the Southern English as poles a part socially.
 
Fridgemagnetman said:
Northern Ireland is split by religion fundamentally.

Or to express it politically '' was'.

Mix that in with a desire for a United Ireland principally among Catholics.

But it's all very complicated and sort of strays too far from general autism discussion...
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Yes, I am a bit irritated. This has nothing to do with this thread, people there don't talk about religion, and we are all seen as one there anyway.

The point is that the cultures are very different in how we socialise.
 
Realist said:
The point is that the cultures are very different in how we socialise.
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Point taken. Though I'm assuming that has to have some impact in your situation that may be outside your control. That at the very least it might complicate matters.

I still think you may be able to find something neutral and unrelated to such considerations to form a common bond with others. Maybe a hobby or something along those lines.
 
Suzanne said:
I was in college for two years and made one "friend" and even that was not what friendships are made of.

At the ripe age of 48, I know a couple of ladies who I feel ok around and funnily enough, the one I feel completely at ease with, she is as "odd" as I am and that is why we get on.

I spent so long wondering what on earth I was doing wrong? I was perplexed because I thought I was doing what everyone else does, but as you describe, all I got was lukewarm responses and nothing more and I spent many a time in tears.

When I got to the point of: I don't care now, suddenly have a few friends.
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As an NT would say: OH I know, right!

It's a rather interesting(and at times slightly annoying) part of human culture. Whenever you want to focus on your projects or just stay alone for a few weeks, suddenly everyone wants to socialise... while running away whenever you decide to leave your head ;)
 
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