Grumpy Cat
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I've read the same things as well and ironically, it is the "not knowing" how he (AS) feels while in the relationship that causes the (NT) insecurity > that causes the (NT) emotional reaction > that causes the (AS) meltdowns/shutdown > that causes the end If he did lose interest in me, it seemed like it happened over night and even if we were to get back together, who's to say he won't just lose interest again and again? The saddest part of this is that I really do love him very much and accept the way he is and have learned as much as I can to relate to him better but he hasn't shown any interest in me and there's nothing I can do about it… it is what it is.
See, and what I don't understand is that he was all into you in the beginning which shows that an Aspie can show interest and make some moves like texting you or calling which he did in the beginning, right? Then if you ask if the relationship is ok, he'd probably get upset you asked. But what Aspies don't understand is the fact that that is how friendships/relationships work with NT's - there must be contact more often than what they probably think there needs to be. So are you to feel upset, lonely and wondering if he's still interested in you all the time? I just don't know what the answer is myself to be honest and it is sad.