IntoTheVoid
Well-Known Member
I've always had a big "sense of justice" or whatever you can call it. There are so many things about this world that totally bother me and I want to change them! So I do many activities and I spread awareness. I have many blogs about it and so on. It's my special interest I think.
I enjoy reading books that help me to understand this world more, I enjoy thinking about it and also I enjoy writing about it (blog posts, books), but I totally don't enjoy discussing it with people. Actually I hate it.
But people want to discuss it all the time. Everywhere.
Example: A friend of mine shows up and out of nowhere he starts talking about some of his opinions (usually it's them who start, not me) which I totally disagree with. He expects me that I would agree, but it's not happening. I say "Sorry, but I disagree." and an argument starts. Sometimes I even try to avoid the conversation, to stop it, because it's annoying. Also it does a weird things to my body.
I say "Look, I know you have good intentions, but your solutions won't help people as you think. It probably does the exact opposite. The problem with your opinion is the fact that you ignore the principle X and principle Y. I can recommend you some books and wiki posts about this topic that explain this issue more. It's too complex thing and you see it too simple. Could you read it and think about this again?"
Well no... people never read anything I recommend them.
And it happens all the time. Most discussions lead to nowhere. We are both totally unable to understand each other. It's frustrating, annoying and unlike many people, I don't enjoy it. I wish I could somehow convince people to at least think about some points. Many people told me: "You see the things too logical, but people are not logical, they are emotional. You can't convince them with logic," but this advice is not much helpful. I don't know how to explain things differently than using the logic. I don't have an ability to do anything else than explaining my points with logic.
Anyway, there are times when I totally give up. And avoid all these discussions. But then something happens... something that really bothers me a lot and everybody are talking about it, so it's impossible for me to stay neutral and avoid talking about it.
It's like I hate discussing my opinions and viewpoints with people and I don't want to do it. But in the same time I need to do it because I just can't let it be as it is.
One topic that all of you were probably dealing with - and it's autism itself. You probably met someone who said something like "Autism is mental retardation... People with autism don't have empathy", so you get mad and you try to explain it's not truth. "I have an autism... do I look like I am retarted?" (not really good response tho... some people then try to be funny and say yes).
And after couple of minutes of discussion you realize it leads to nowhere because the person is totally convinced it's "retardation and lack of empathy" and no matter what you say, he's still totally convinced, ignoring your points, repeating his, refusing to read sources and beliveing many obsolete myths. Of course it probably drains your energy and your willingless to discuss anything in the future... You feel upset and tired.
So it's the endless loop of frustration that sometimes leads to even depression and dispair.
Recently I read somewhere the "strong sense of justice is an autism thing" which is no suprise for me. So am I cursed forever?
Any advice?
I enjoy reading books that help me to understand this world more, I enjoy thinking about it and also I enjoy writing about it (blog posts, books), but I totally don't enjoy discussing it with people. Actually I hate it.
But people want to discuss it all the time. Everywhere.
Example: A friend of mine shows up and out of nowhere he starts talking about some of his opinions (usually it's them who start, not me) which I totally disagree with. He expects me that I would agree, but it's not happening. I say "Sorry, but I disagree." and an argument starts. Sometimes I even try to avoid the conversation, to stop it, because it's annoying. Also it does a weird things to my body.
I say "Look, I know you have good intentions, but your solutions won't help people as you think. It probably does the exact opposite. The problem with your opinion is the fact that you ignore the principle X and principle Y. I can recommend you some books and wiki posts about this topic that explain this issue more. It's too complex thing and you see it too simple. Could you read it and think about this again?"
Well no... people never read anything I recommend them.
And it happens all the time. Most discussions lead to nowhere. We are both totally unable to understand each other. It's frustrating, annoying and unlike many people, I don't enjoy it. I wish I could somehow convince people to at least think about some points. Many people told me: "You see the things too logical, but people are not logical, they are emotional. You can't convince them with logic," but this advice is not much helpful. I don't know how to explain things differently than using the logic. I don't have an ability to do anything else than explaining my points with logic.
Anyway, there are times when I totally give up. And avoid all these discussions. But then something happens... something that really bothers me a lot and everybody are talking about it, so it's impossible for me to stay neutral and avoid talking about it.
It's like I hate discussing my opinions and viewpoints with people and I don't want to do it. But in the same time I need to do it because I just can't let it be as it is.
One topic that all of you were probably dealing with - and it's autism itself. You probably met someone who said something like "Autism is mental retardation... People with autism don't have empathy", so you get mad and you try to explain it's not truth. "I have an autism... do I look like I am retarted?" (not really good response tho... some people then try to be funny and say yes).
And after couple of minutes of discussion you realize it leads to nowhere because the person is totally convinced it's "retardation and lack of empathy" and no matter what you say, he's still totally convinced, ignoring your points, repeating his, refusing to read sources and beliveing many obsolete myths. Of course it probably drains your energy and your willingless to discuss anything in the future... You feel upset and tired.
So it's the endless loop of frustration that sometimes leads to even depression and dispair.
Recently I read somewhere the "strong sense of justice is an autism thing" which is no suprise for me. So am I cursed forever?
Any advice?