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Sad meltdown over something stupid?

Grace13

Grace13

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Today i was playing a chat game and on there if you follow the rules and have playde 300 hours you can be a moderator... You can't have 6 invalid reports or you miss your privilege to report again... When you can't report you can't be a moderator.. Today when i was gonna report someone for swearing i got a message... Your privilege to report is gone... I saw this and quietly tried again.. The same popped up.. I was really sad and ran out without shoes when it's early spring.. soo it's still cold.. I began to crie and crie to my head was red.. i went my room and cried to my blanket was wet and thought that my life was over... I went down to tell my mommy and i asked if i could use the computer after i showered, she said yes if you hurry and i hurried... after i showered i went to the computer to check if i got a mail that i sendt because the non privilege didn't give sence to me.. and the admin said it was a bug.. i was so releafed and i was happy again..
 
Hey Grace, I'm sorry, it's so horrible when that happens - and it does happen quite a bit!
How do you deal with it? Walk away as soon as you start feeling frustrated, as hard as that is, find something else you like to do and don't think of that again till you feel you're calm and ready.
Those things will always happen and you must get into a habit of walking away. I'm Ooold ;) and I still have to remember that rule, or else I'll cry too.. and sometimes I really still do.
Some rules don't work very well, but we have to accept that they're there and try anyway.. and sometimes we cry..
..And sometimes the rules work :)
 
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When you have put so many hours into something, it is very easy to understand getting very upset when you think it is lost. You didn't do too bad all things considered. I have fantasized about throwing my computer into the creek after only losing 1-2 hours of work. :mad:
 
Oh yeah. My early years in college when I had to use a typewriter for term papers. Where a single typo error was unacceptable.

Often thought of throwing the typewriter through a rather large plate glass window.

Never did though...
 
At least you have age on your side lol! Try being 45 and feeling the same way :eek:

It can be from a stupid advert, to my computer freezing, to me getting an email that someone has reported me from Yahoo Answers, and yet, I never swear or use other defamatory words and others can be foul and yet get away with it.

I have swore violently at the computer and screamed and wanting to hit my head! No wonder my poor husband thinks his wife has gone mad lol

Doesn't happen often, thank goodness, but at my age........!
 
Stupid things I have cried over:
-The record function was set up incorrectly, and an episode of my favorite TV show did not get recorded (middle school)
-I dropped my lunch, including a lemon bar that I was excited about (university--seriously--but to be fair, it was my first lunch from the cafeteria after moving into the dorm... :oops: ). And yes, I still remember that ten years later.

Whenever things are 'supposed' to turn out a certain way, but then they don't, it is frustrating, especially for us (and for me, if it involves food!) I've read--and this matches with experience--that it helps to work on being less attached to whatever expectations or outcomes or scripts we have in mind of how things will go. Let out the frustration, accept that we can't control things, and learn from the situation ways to grow. If you aren't attached to the outcome, it isn't so frustrating when things don't work out that way and it's easier to 'live in the moment'. Easier said than done, though.

Anyway, don't beat yourself up over it. No point in that!
 
I used to think I was having some kind of feel-sorry-for-myself, immature hissy-fit and be quite ashamed afterward, especially if I broke something.. it's taken me many years to get that under control and even now I struggle sometimes.
Now, of course, I know that it's Aspergers and just part of the way my mind and emotions work - royinpink basically said what I was going to, accept that things just work out the way they do and learn to not mind that.
This approach has considerably eased my constant anxiety and helps me more the more I practice it :)
 
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