This has come up in my life like four times just in the last week, once or twice here, so I've thought about it a lot. A friend tried explaining it to me, but I still don't get it, but I trust him, so there must be something to it.
It's the whole thing about how people's problems are relative. So if someone complains about something and it seems silly to me, people will say something like, "But it's not to them," and my friend said something like, "Everyone's feelings are valid."
But does this have some sort of limit? Isn't a child being starved objectively worse than so many other things? I'm not great at thinking of hypotheticals but I think I'm making sense anyway.
When a child cries because he wants more candy, I don't care. I ignore him. Because it's a silly thing to cry over. The child should learn to be happy with the candy he already got. Am I wrong about that, or is that something else, or what?
There are so many awful things happening to people every day, so it seems to me that anytime those awful things aren't happening to us, we should be grateful, not complaining about something we find in our lives that isn't exactly the way we want it.
And if we do complain, I believe there's a way of going about it, a way that shows you're aware it's not all that important, because I'm not saying no one is ever allowed to complain just because we're not being tortured. But we can complain with bitterness and entitlement or we can complain with an attitude like, "Darn, I wish it were this other way instead."
What am I missing?
And just to be clear, I'm only confused. I'm not annoyed, angry, or irritated, or intending to express any other form of negativity in general or to anyone specific. Although it may have started in ways like that, it's now just become a general concept that I've thought about so much that I can no longer have coherent thoughts about it.
Thank you for everything, everyone!
It's the whole thing about how people's problems are relative. So if someone complains about something and it seems silly to me, people will say something like, "But it's not to them," and my friend said something like, "Everyone's feelings are valid."
But does this have some sort of limit? Isn't a child being starved objectively worse than so many other things? I'm not great at thinking of hypotheticals but I think I'm making sense anyway.
When a child cries because he wants more candy, I don't care. I ignore him. Because it's a silly thing to cry over. The child should learn to be happy with the candy he already got. Am I wrong about that, or is that something else, or what?
There are so many awful things happening to people every day, so it seems to me that anytime those awful things aren't happening to us, we should be grateful, not complaining about something we find in our lives that isn't exactly the way we want it.
And if we do complain, I believe there's a way of going about it, a way that shows you're aware it's not all that important, because I'm not saying no one is ever allowed to complain just because we're not being tortured. But we can complain with bitterness and entitlement or we can complain with an attitude like, "Darn, I wish it were this other way instead."
What am I missing?
And just to be clear, I'm only confused. I'm not annoyed, angry, or irritated, or intending to express any other form of negativity in general or to anyone specific. Although it may have started in ways like that, it's now just become a general concept that I've thought about so much that I can no longer have coherent thoughts about it.
Thank you for everything, everyone!