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Read this for me please.

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Aspieistj

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I sit at the computer in front of the window that looks across at my neighbor's house. Occasionally, a man in a white truck pulls up to the house and goes in, or talks to any family who may be outside. Today, the white truck pulled up and the driver went inside. A few minutes later he came out and my neighbor walked out to the truck with the driver. They spoke very briefly and then the neighbor returned to his house and the driver left. It is 20 degrees out and snow is falling continuously. My neighbor just spent about 2 hours plowing his property so I assume he is tired and very cold. Why did he walk out to the truck with his visitor? Is that just being friendly? My take is that something private was said while the men were outside because there are other family members in the house. This kind of puzzle is part of my Aspieness and I wonder if NTs would think nothing of it.
 
I would likely draw a similar conclusion. Perhaps to the point of wondering that something more ominous might be in play, especially if this happens on an occasional basis as you said.

However in my case, my OCD drives a lot of my suspiciousness. Originally triggered by a series of traumas in the same year which culminated in being the victim of a crime.
 
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I have no idea why he could have gone outside, that would have me wondering too - I can't see any reason why he couldn't just say goodbye to him at the doorstep. I would be curious about the white truck too, though that could just be a relative or friend.
 
Umm, its not that uncommon that if an important conversation isn't finished but the visitor has limited time to talk on the way to the vehicle.
 
This is a large, extended family with many friends. They are social people and good neighbors. I notice that truck because it has a snow plow on the front. There are visitors in and out every day and I am certain nothing unsavory is going on. I simply wondered about the behavior and decided this might be something an NT could explain.
 
I came to the same conclusion. And you're right, as an NT I really wouldn't spend time thinking about that. I'm more programmed to be thinking about things out of the ordinary like a police car or ambulance being in the neighborhood. This visitor you speak of is a repeated occurrence and a welcomed visitor.
 
Just an FYI, that as an NT, I would think nothing of what you described. It doesn't warrant suspicion, especially given what you added later about the family. So I personally would not find this behavior to be unusual or strange in any way. IMO it would fall under an NT being friendly ... they got caught up in conversation ... it was probably hard to pull away either because there was more to discuss or the person didn't want to be rude ... despite the fact that they were probably cold & tired.

This was a good question.
 
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Lol I am sitting upstairs, in our spare guest bedroom, with lappy on the table and can see out of my window :p

I too, would be thinking the same thing! My husband being an nt would probably say: so what?
 
I didn't ask this question with the suspicion that anything bad or illegal was taking place. It could have been as innocent as planning a surprise for someone. My curiosity was very specific to understanding "normal" friendly or polite behavior because I often miss doing the right thing. In my logical mind, watching someone walk out into awful weather for less than a minute's extra contact seemed stupid--and therefore, maybe an NT behavior. I guess it might be like a society lady saying to a visitor that she will "see them out." There is so much traffic in and out of the drive every day that the white truck stood out only because it is the only one that is white and it has a snow plow on the front to also catch my eye. See--I can't even talk to other Aspies without being misunderstood.
 
There could be a lot of different reasons - maybe the guy in the truck took off too quick and therefore the person inside the house had to go outside with him to finish the conversation. He could have been talking about something that he didn't want others to hear. If he was being polite and walking the guy to the truck, he would do this gesture every time - not just once. The thing is why he did it will never really be known unless you ask him - which I would not recommend unless you knew him well.
 
Um, I overlook lots of neighbors (I live in the city) & don't find this to be strange at all. In fact, I suspect the guy in the truck is a contractor. He's probably doing some work in the house. It explains why he visits & meets with family members. I wouldn't be alarmed (as an Aspie). If the family isn't alarmed, he clearly has a role/place there & it looks to me like maybe the guy is hired to do a reno project or something. You said his truck had a plow in front. That indicates a professional contractor to me...
 
I'd have to be able to filter out any security aspects to such a question before I could move onto things like NT behaviors. Too bad the OP's observations came in incremental posts. Might have been interesting had I drawn a different conclusion with more information. Maybe....maybe not.

My OCD rituals revolve primarily around personal security issues. I've had things done to me to make me VERY mistrustful of others. Sometimes even the most benign circumstances can make it challenging for me to be trusting at all. :oops:
 
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Given the cold weather, my guess would have been that maybe somebody had the flu and they were trying to usher the White Truck Driver back out to safety so he wouldn't get sick by being around the family in the house.
 
I'm NT, and the "walking out" thing could also be considered polite or kind. Similar to if you have a guest, you (well some people *wink*) would walk them to the door. Ya, I'm kind of the type that would walk them out to the car, especially if it was icy /slippery / etc.
 
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