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I didn't realize this until now but I do the same. Technically it makes a lot of sense, because it's a surefire way to never have to go through anything bad again, or to prevent a certain type of trauma from recurring.I know this isn’t right, but when people compliment me or want to be my friend I often assume it’s facetious or insulting
While I am initially wary of that, in practice, having had people make me feel small and worthless in the past, I enjoy honestly complementing people to have them feel good about themselves.I know this isn’t right, but when people compliment me or want to be my friend I often assume it’s facetious or insulting
How do you discern those who lie to you for advantage? What the OP wrote.i think my social skills are very good
How do I know if someone is lying to me or not? My core symptom of Autism Spectrum Disorder makes it hard for me to learn from my mistakes from being taken advantage of, and sometimes the police are involved.
And until you can verify, you don't know if the person who told you the other guy was lying was themself lying.I have this problem too, it is very scary. So many times someone else near by will tell me the person who just spoke to me was lying. I did not know that. I cannot find a solution.
And until you can verify, you don't know if the person who told you the other guy was lying was themself lying.
Really, the only way to get through life is to assume that there is a risk that anything someone tells you might be a lie unless and until you can independently verify it. The more they benefit from a lie, the greater chance of it. Behave so as not to be vulnerable in case they are lying.
NTs are so into the "social lies" and "white lies" they do not consider them as lies. Same thing is true for lies on resumes. They don't really count. Most people do not consider exaggerations to be lies. If they are telling you a falsehood "for your own good" they don't consider it a lie. Lies of omission are often not considered lies unless there's a legal obligation to tell the whole truth. Saying they "know" something even if they lack any evidence for it isn't usually considered a lie either.
Then again, an opinion isn't a lie (even though opinions are often stated to sound like facts) nor statements of faith and neither is simply being incorrect. A lie always contains the conscious intent to deceive.
Many lies simply do not matter. Unless it is a matter of malice or fraud, I don't worry about it. Lying in and of itself isn't even considered a sin unless there is malicious intent regarding a person. Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbor.