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People are like onions...I'm no onion

Lydia Z

Lydia Z

Lydia Zamunda
When you meet someone and get to know them its like peeling the top layer of an onion and when you get well acquainted those layers peel off even more. I don't think i am like that. what you see the first time is what you will get every time. There is nothing to reveal here and I think that comes off to people as me being a hard nut to crack. Can any of you relate?
 
But how is that possible?
They don't know your favorite things, like food, movie, place, etc.
They don't know if you're quick to anger or what you do when you're angry.
They don't know you're autistic?
They don't know how moody you are.
They don't know your hobbies, goals, past, or dreams.
They don't know much.

Did I misunderstand you? :eek:
 
Lydia Z said:
When you meet someone and get to know them its like peeling the top layer of an onion and when you get well acquainted those layers peel off even more. I don't think i am like that.
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That is what I get from your avatar...!
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(No layers there...)
 
Shrek: Ogres are like onions.
Donkey: They stink?
Shrek: Yes... no! They have layers.
Donkey: You know, not everyone likes onions. But cakes have layers, and everyone loves cakes!
Shrek: Ogres are not cakes.
Donkey: Oh, and parfaits! Parfaits have got to be the most delicious tasting things ever!

Sorry, that dialogue just comes comes into my head whenever I hear the onion philosophy.:D
 
I think I see what you are saying. You are to be taken at face value, rather than ones who pretend to be something they are not?

But, as everyone is saying, it is not as simple as that, because every single human being has more to offer than just a miniscule moment of chatting with each other and thus, we are all like "onions".
 
I like onion people.
I don’t always understand them but can relate in so much as I have layers also.
Sausage and bananas too.
Pomegranates’ are hard work.
 
I'd say I'm more akin to the onion analogy rather than not. I do recognise that some people are who they are on first meeting... but I can't personally relate. I don't share a lot and find it difficult to talk about myself, so pretty much everyone I've ever met is still left guessing.
 
That might explain why I hate onions so much.

I mean, I'd really rather not peel the layers off the things to begin with. Usually releases quite the stench. Thanks, but no, I'll pass.
 
Onions - they make others cry.
I usually get irritated when someone compares people to non-people anything to make their point, because we are not that. My sister was insisting the importance of an article comparing people to a rat and my response was, but we're not a rat. (Made the article false).
My boss once asked in a meeting for us to answer the question: if I were a vegetable what would I be? She said she would be a potato with eyes everywhere. I just said I'm not a vegetable.
But this one has been fun. :)
 
I tend to think of myself as a faceted stone in a stand... depending on what situation I am in (work, social, close friends, family, partner, etc.) depends on which facet is at the forefront. I don't mean that I am a completely different person in each of these settings, I am still the same person (stone if you will) but the parts of me I present/hide are different, I think NT's do this to some extent too, people obviously behave differently at work than at a bar but I think I am more aware of these differences because of my AS. Also there are some deeper parts of me that I don't necessarily share with some/all people. I find this a better analogy than the onion one.
 
Some are like Russian dolls: big on the outside, but once you start taking them apart tiny on the inside.
 
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