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Featured Overwhelming Melt-down Question

Discussion in 'General Autism Discussion' started by techteach, Jun 20, 2019.

  1. the_tortoise

    the_tortoise Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    Yes it makes sense to me, I would try the same thing if it were me in your place.

    I hope the bad feelings begin to ease away soon and you can rediscover the joy you started out with!
     
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  2. techteach

    techteach Captain Oblivious

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    @Vinca Yes, I do not like change either, and it can overwhelm me. That may be a reason I lost it. I get very involved in things...

    I have problems with Alexithymia and have been learning to not ignore feelings I do not understand but to just experience them even if I'm not sure what they are. I used to suppress them because I didn't understand the need to have them. I think it was @Fino (nice duck by the way) who helped me with this (he has the same problem.) So I'm not sure even now what happened (with my feelings.) Maybe I could with a picture that could help? I just go someplace quiet (was in bed a lot the last couple of days) and experience. How do you even search for a picture if you don't know for what you are looking?

    @MaeveTheRaven I always feel very ashamed (or sad, or hurting) when it happens. Many times it's much more inside than outside (emotional distress rather than breaking something.) Still the guilt. Thank you for the kind words. I'm going to wait a month or so, and if I am able to go back to it that will be a major life change for me. Reading this seems kind of sad, never realized until this incident that this has been going for years. Does this make sense? I have a lot of things/people who used to be a part of my life that because of the way I am are not just not a part, but the feeling of being around it/them is so full of hurt inside that even writing this is painful. Lost my best friend because all he wants to talk about is religion and that topic is impossible for me.:(

    But doing much better today. And I really liked the
    . Could so identify.:)
     
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  3. Fino

    Fino Alex V.I.P Member

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    Thank you!! :D:D:D

    That was to the duck part, to the rest: I know, right!?:eek:
     
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  4. BeachLife

    BeachLife 40's woman newly diagnosed

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    Yes, it's tricky, and not a nice feeling. so many of us relate to what you are talking about. I would just like to add that being kind to yourself is so important. If you are not comfortable asking for accommodations from people, well I would urge you to stsrt getting comfortable with allowing yourself accommodations and some really good self care. "This too shall pass" just like all the other team it's happened, so I wish you all the best with allowing yourself whatever you need to make these things easier for you. If people won't back us, we have really got to back ourselves. Take care
     
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    paloftoon Well-Known Member

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    Is your project conducive to you asking colleagues for help and/or letting your boss know that you might not be able to finish the project by a certain deadline at all because of some things that could not be anticipated?
     
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  6. techteach

    techteach Captain Oblivious

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    @paloftoon Thank you for answering. The project is totally me playing. :) I just get very involved. I teach electronics and relax by creating circuits on bread-boards. This one is so awesome I want to get it built. It's killer!!!

    @BeachLife It is hard for me to ask for time because I always want to be there for others. But I needed this time and I should have let everyone know and turned off my phone. I know that in order to be there for others I have to take care of myself. But it is hard. I NEED to do this next time... Thank you.:)
     
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  7. techteach

    techteach Captain Oblivious

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    I did solder it together on Wednesday. It sounds amazing.:)

    This is a big thing for me because it is something I have never been able to do, go back to something that I have melted down over.

    I know there are bigger things (I have melted down over) I need to get past. Relationships mainly. Just typing that made it seem overwhelming. It make me feel helpless and lost. Don't know where to start. Think I need to let the past be past and move on.

    Anyway, thank you everyone:)
     
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  8. the_tortoise

    the_tortoise Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    Congratulations!! :)
     
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    You definitely don't have anything to be ashamed of here.

    If possible, remove the interruptions. Lock the door. Put on music. Turn off the phone. I'm not sure what your living situation is, but if you have to deal with other people, block off time where you are unavailable (except for real emergencies). It's not unusual for neurotypicals to want some time alone, and it's certainly not too much to ask to be allowed to work on your project in peace.
     
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  10. Aspychata

    Aspychata My Art Work

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    Maybe next really big project you have planned to do at a more opportune time , (like 3:am). And why get upset, you were filled with gleeful anticipation but bombed out after the umpteenth interruption. So just rearrange your schedule or rent a cabin in the outback. Just kidding. It's great you have so much passion. Can you re-acquaint yourself with your love of doing this project and how happy you will be once finished. Good luck.
     
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