Out of sync with life

[Rocco]

Do you ever feel out of sync with life?
I have felt lately as though I am a key that does not unlock the door to my life, held back.
Processing is slower, misunderstandings and miscommunications soaring.

 

[Fino]

I imagined a key with a head put into a door and the key doesn't work!

But I wonder if you could explain with less figurative language?

Unless other people understand, then you can ignore me and they'll help!

 

[Major Tom]

Pretty much every day, I haven't been firing on all cylinders for a while now.

 

[SusanLR]

Always have felt out of sync with the world.
In my bubble I go through life. Looking out, but, no one is allowed in.
Don't fit with the majority of how the others and life works.
Alone in a world of people.
Not comfortable with them. Not comfortable with just me and my thoughts.
Just keep rolling along.

 

[BeachLife]

I really like your painting. Art is such a healthy way of expressing upsetting feelings. Through your art, you are not alone as I immediately understood about burning bridges. It's tough - but many of us here have really similar experiences. Lately I'm not craving a best friend or close family, I'm more happy to just have light friendships. That has come from self acceptance achieved from being diagnosed but also being here in this awesome community. Currently I'm working on trying to "stay in the moment" when talking to acquaintances and people in my everyday life and just enjoy them like I did when I was a kid. Look at their faces closely when they speak, appreciate their pretty eye colour or the nice colours they chose to wear today. It's hard as my self conciousnwss makes me want to talk over them or my masking takes over and I start trying to act NT and I get over animated, but I'm working on it...slowing down and just trying to enjoy the interaction more passively. That's all I really want from people right now. Thanks for sharing your art! Keep it up!!!

 

[Gracey]

I can go through phases of feeling out of sync.
Like my brain is on some sort of energy saving mode.

It takes more effort than usual to pay attention to detail, understand others and what’s going on around me in addition to sticking to a plan.
(Whatever plans I happened to have had in place)

I’ve also noticed these phases are temporary. Never yet permanent.

I try to use them as a reminder to make more of an effort to relax and take care of myself.

 

[Onna]

View attachment 51399 Do you ever feel out of sync with life?
I have felt lately as though I am a key that does not unlock the door to my life, held back.
Processing is slower, misunderstandings and miscommunications soaring.

Yes I’m going through this right now, it’s been going on for a while.
I think it’s a matter of needing something. There’s something in our lives we need to resolve, something we need to figure out that is missing or not quite right in our lives.

 

[Gracey]

... something we need to figure out that is missing or not quite right in our lives.

I try to see it like this too.

A deviation from what is usual or normal for us in our day to day living is a signal to re-examine something, pay attention to something.

We don’t have equilibrium, balance.
It’s a great learning opportunity to discover why.

 

[china autie]

That is a seriously good painting!

Yeah, as Outsiders by definition we are out f sync. Marching to our own drum [living an authentic life] is difficult but what choice do we really have.

Assimilation is painful and not worth what we have to give up in the end.

 

[Rocco]

I imagined a key with a head put into a door and the key doesn't work!

But I wonder if you could explain with less figurative language?

Unless other people understand, then you can ignore me and they'll help!

Sorry to be so figurative. The feeling has been accurately expressed in the other replies here. I tried for a long time to expand on the issue, but I cannot find the words.

It is greatly reassuring to recognize I am not alone in the struggles. Much time has passed since I posted here regularly and I had forgotten the comfort of communication with people who understand what I/we all are going through at times.

Thank you for the replies everyone

 

[Judge]

Good metaphor, Rocco.

Yeah, on occasion I've thought to have burned all my bridges with people as well.

Not a good feeling.

 

[BraidedPony]

The out of sync thing! Yes! It starts with a mistake or misunderstanding and my anxiety will rise. This causes more cringeworthy actions on my part, then I lose just a little of my mental stability and whamO, I am soooo out of sync with the world until I rest and reset.
For me it is temporary and then I go back to being just a bit weird but nice old lady.

 

[BraidedPony]

P.S. I just noticed in the painting, the bridge is between a rock and a hard place! How appropriate for describing our world!

 

[clg114]

Am I in sync with life or am I in sync with my life? My life is my wife and family. This is what I care about the most. This what I will protect until the end. On the other hand, being in sync with life in general is to take on the weight of the of the world This is to much for one person. I am in sync with my world and live in my world. We are doing just fine. I guess the message would be find what makes you happy and own it. Embrace it. Live it! You only live once.

 

[Fino]

Is "out of sync" another way of saying "lonely," or something in that direction?

 

[clg114]

Is "out of sync" another way of saying "lonely," or something in that direction?

Out of sync means that you do not "have all your ducks in a row".

 

[Fino]

Out of sync means that you do not "have all your ducks in a row".

Sorry, I just put "winner" on any post that mentions ducks, assuming it isn't negative.

But I do understand more now. I guessed "lonely" because a lot of people mentioned things about not fitting in and things like that.

 

[Peter Morrison]

Being out of sync is not unknown to me either. I see it as meaning there is no balance in the rhythm. The rhythm is the structure of our lives, and the balance is a good relationship to that structure. It's sometimes easy to forget that our lives can be like finely tuned intricate machines. Everything we need, have, want, and do requires a place in the machinery. If one part is off, the entire process can become off balance. We can also create this imbalance ourselves by not respecting or paying enough attention to the rhythm we need. For me, structure is key to securing any kind of productivity, accomplishment, satisfaction, and serenity. I need each of these every day. I don't always succeed, so I end up with a mediocre experience even though I produce the effort, and I hate it in the process. Being out of sync has devastating effects. Rocco, have faith that you can put your structure back in order and be patient. Give yourself what you need.

 

[Jil]

I love your burning bridge painting Rocco. Story of my life - shown in beautiful colours!

 

[Bronzelincolns]

I have definitely burned my share of bridges. many of them I don't necessarily regret.