Old friends

[flynn_gabriel]

So, most of you know that I've had a very hard, and low couple of months. Well now I'm doing a little better. I ran into some old friends a few weeks ago. They are father and son. From this point on I will refer to them as: P= Father & G= Son. G is your classic autistic case. He's a dishwasher at a casino, is pretty much self sustainable but they live together. P had major surgery last June. Shortly after his surgery there were problems at home. P wound up going to jail a few days ago. So I've been checking in on G. making sure he's ok, asking how his day was etc. So I feel needed now. Kinda lifts my spirits.......

 

[Southern Discomfort]

Yeah, strangely enough feeling like you're needed by someone is more acceptable for us that needing ourselves.

 

[Suzanne]

That is most understandable, because when we think and help others out, it actually does help us out too.

Also, when we hear how bad something is for someone it can put our own issues into prespective and we feel less worried.

 

[WittyAspie]

Being useful is extremely important for our psychological health. It is the reason some people go back to work after retirement. They have an inner desire to be productive and do something useful every day.

 

[Larisa]

I think that - theoretically - connections with other people are supposed to probe if I'm really OK with myself.
That's a theory - but every theory has many previously defined conditions to be considered true and reflect the objective reality.

So meeting other people can be really hurtful if they impose on themselves rights to judge and punish the person for not heeding to follow and surpass their expectations.
And meeting other people can be a strong support if they accept the person for what this person really is, without judgement and disapproval...