salamontius
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I am not sure is this a aspie trait or something else, since I have never visited a therapist, but I have a way of acting very slow about hints what has been described by others to me as 100% sure sign of interest.
I am a male, I am more or less adapted to people, but find only confusion, when it comes to building any kind of relationship. In this case romantic.
Since I am more or less good looking, intelligent and mysterious(actually I just don't like to talk), I have experienced some romantic interest from females. Yet I almost never understood it. I have been enlightened about it only afterwards, by my companions. I have several stories. One of them is about a girl that I danced with all evening and who offered me to stay over, since her roommate was not in town. I agreed because I had nowhere to stay, but nothing happened. Since I could not imagine that dancing and drinking all night together and then a walk to her place, spending time in some enlightening discussions could be followed by anything else. I was quite surprised next day, when everyone of my friends assumed something more happened. There were many times when I was talking to a girl and afterwards was informed that I was actually flirting with a girl. For example, I was of course flattered, when a girl said she really likes my name and that it would be a fitting for her husband. But not until later I realized it could be a beginning of something more.
I have a handful of such stories and I started to think, that there is something wrong with me.
Anyway I wanted to know, is this an aspie thing?
Being slow or oblivious to such hints and situations.
I am a male, I am more or less adapted to people, but find only confusion, when it comes to building any kind of relationship. In this case romantic.
Since I am more or less good looking, intelligent and mysterious(actually I just don't like to talk), I have experienced some romantic interest from females. Yet I almost never understood it. I have been enlightened about it only afterwards, by my companions. I have several stories. One of them is about a girl that I danced with all evening and who offered me to stay over, since her roommate was not in town. I agreed because I had nowhere to stay, but nothing happened. Since I could not imagine that dancing and drinking all night together and then a walk to her place, spending time in some enlightening discussions could be followed by anything else. I was quite surprised next day, when everyone of my friends assumed something more happened. There were many times when I was talking to a girl and afterwards was informed that I was actually flirting with a girl. For example, I was of course flattered, when a girl said she really likes my name and that it would be a fitting for her husband. But not until later I realized it could be a beginning of something more.
I have a handful of such stories and I started to think, that there is something wrong with me.
Anyway I wanted to know, is this an aspie thing?
Being slow or oblivious to such hints and situations.