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[Ronald Zeeman]

Once you realize you are you on the spectrum you easily spot others. most have no idea Wife friend tells her new boy friend how similar he am I are he thinks she is wrong. Funny meet him once I could tell she was right Her husband who passed away was also on the spectrum why both of us couples become friends. Getting self diagnosed was informative to me and my wife, other then that nobody else's business. Do you really want that neon sign, for what purpose.

 

[JohnK]

That's a good question, Ronald. Well, it seems to me something I should share with people I care about who have told me that I've said something that hurt someone's feelings when I had no idea, or who wonder why I'm so quiet in gatherings with people I don't know well. I really have only told an ASD friend of mine, my wife, my brother-in-law, one of my sisters, and my Mom. None of them have indicated to me they don't agree with my self-diagnosis except my wife, who tends to think I'm only going through a phase. I think an official diagnosis might help them understand me better since it has helped me better understand myself.

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

I'm quiet in gatherings, my way of masking. extrovert when I know them well. surprised your wife does not see it
you have a point wife would understand you better. My wife never questioned my self diagnosis. explained a lot.

 

[gigi1919]

Thanks, gigi. I don't think I really need any professional support since I guess I've adapted pretty well through a lifetime of being me! But I have found a sense of relief in knowing that I am sort of a misfit not because of something I can help, but because that's how God made me. I guess the only reason I would like to pursue a diagnosis would be to make it official rather than to seem like a pretender when I talk with others about what makes me the way I am.

Yes, I sometimes feel the same. The diagnosis to not feel like pretending. I guess I've grown tons of self validation over last years which kind of helps me settle on self diagnosis.
After all, I'm not claiming to be autistic to get anything.
I guess for me, there are also many proofs that speak more than medical stamp.
One being is that it feels like the first thing that make sense out of my 43 years of life, and I searched a lot.
Secondly the things autists talk about on yt channels fit my description in many ways
We're all different, naturally, but also I recognise the pattern.

And one thing that spooked me out was that I'm writing a book aboutsensory sensitivity - parts of it are insights that come from ether, like I sit down and the move through me. And I caught myself writing about autistic people for pages before I stopped and was like "what do I know about autism? I have no clue what that is or even met autistic person". And I never lie or say things for someone that would hurt their feelings. Like a truth GPS.

But this event had me pursue the topic and I realised that I knew what I was writing because I am autistic. A big shocbrand one of the weirdest things in my life.

I hope you will find what you need through diagnosis

 

[gigi1919]

Thanks, gigi. I don't think I really need any professional support since I guess I've adapted pretty well through a lifetime of being me! But I have found a sense of relief in knowing that I am sort of a misfit not because of something I can help, but because that's how God made me. I guess the only reason I would like to pursue a diagnosis would be to make it official rather than to seem like a pretender when I talk with others about what makes me the way I am.

Ps. I followed you here to see how your doings evolve.

 

[JohnK]

Ps. I followed you here to see how your doings evolve.

Thank you, gigi. I appreciate that.