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Tenaciouslady

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I am Tenaciouslady. I am a wife of 43 years to an Asperger husband. I also have 2 out of 5 adult children that are Aspies. I am/was? neurotypical when I got married. I am 63 now and I feel like maybe relating to my spouse and children with Aspergers over the years I am picking up their traits. ie. to be clear in communication and not using innuendos or hints, being blunt; or them not being comfortable in large crowds and avoiding those situations, I have become uncomfortable in large crowds. Lots more examples but will keep this to introduction level. :)
 
Well I wouldn't say you are turning autistic. As far as it is understood it is caused by differences in brain development and occurs very early in life. But you could be learning how to see things from an autistic perspective.
 
Aaaahhh, yes. And I am integrating those into my own personality or preferences. I find that it can lead to "melt downs" for me, leaving a room where there is loud activity, can't focus on conversations with background noise, people who don't understand Autism think I am being rude to my family members when I speak very clear and succinct . . . they say I am bossy. I am curious if there are any studies or research about the effects on the neurotypical family members.
 
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Hi there, I would second what Tom said, its not possible to become Autistic, it is how you are born.
However it sounds like you have lived an Autistic way of being for a few decades, to the extent that it is your new normal!
 
Welcome, I think it is great that you are sensitive to your husband's issues. Lots of people don't understand ASD unless it comes with a physical component that's easy to spot. All the pain, frustration, and confusion are inside.
 
Do not expect a lot of chatting many of use do not even like using phones. active on the forum where reflection can be used is the style for many.
 
Alexej said:
Welcome @Tenaciouslady
Tenacity is a virtue that we don't hear much about there days.

I hope you find yourself at home here in the Forums
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I wish I had "tenacity".
All I have in my box of tricks in that category is "stubbornness".
But, admittedly, it has served me well over the years. :cool:
 
Jonn said:
All I have in my box of tricks in that category is "stubbornness".
But, admittedly, it has served me well over the years. :cool:
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Thinks - what is the difference between tenacity and stubbornness?

I need to put that one in my pipe and have a smoke or two
 
Jonn said:
"Tenacity" is a virtue...
"Stubbornness is not... :cool:
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Interesting point there @Jonn.
So what do stubbornness and tenacity look like - or it it just the value judgement that is different?

Reminds me of being skeptical or cynical in a work context. The one is good the other is not - but they look quite alike.

BTW - I'm smoking my pipe and have taken another puff
 
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