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Yeshuasdaughter

Yeshuasdaughter

You know, that one lady we met that one time.
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I don't need advice. In fact, asking this on a public forum, although I only meant good, was very rude and totally goes against privacy.
 
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I must admit, that as described, I would call it off, and instead do something fun and special with my daughter. She can't have the day she was expecting and wanted, and it doesn't sound like a 40-somethings day is much compensation to any of you instead.

So to me, your daughter matters, and these people don't.
 
I completely agree with @AO1501 .
The two of you deserve a nice day/evening out. Go do something together.
Even if it is just a couple hours before the meeting, cancel.

Also the chances of this blowing up if they do come is quite high. I don`t know either of your personalities but in a general scenario like this the chances of a ruined night is really high.
 
I would ask her/tell her something like this…

“I don’t understand… What do you mean the kids can’t make it? Wasn’t that the whole point of us getting together?… Having the kids get together one more time was really important to me and it seems like it would be weird for my daughter to just hang with us old folks.… Is there any chance we can reschedule this to actually have the kids hang out together?”

If you go forward with it as is, it is clear that you are understandably upset about how things turned out and your graciousness and friendliness will just be pretend. Hiding your feelings simply to be a good host seems like it would take a big toll on you and be a false way to interact with someone who has been important in your life.

That sucks for you and your daughter. I think having a fun night out with her as suggested in the posts above sounds like a better idea for everyone.
 
I decided that we are going to host the couple for dinner.

It will be a good lesson for my daughter on how to deal with disappointment, how to be a gracious hostess, and how to get along with older people.
 
I hope the evening goes well for you.

I personally find it very exhausting, and no longer worth it, to be kind and gracious to people that have been complete a ss es to me. Pardon my language.

All the more credit to you that you can manage, I hope the two of you still have a nice evening.
Please let us know how it went.
 
Maybe it would have been easier to facetime on the phone with them. Standards are different today, alot of kids don't even take time to see their parents much less their friends from sometime back ago.
 
It was actually really nice. I think it was anxiety about the meetup coupled with disappointment about the kids not coming.

I'm glad we all hung out.
 
Bolletje said:
Did you manage to express your disappointment about the way things went?
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No. Not at all. We just got together and hung out, and ate spaghetti. We all agreed that next time, we need to try to get the kids together.
 
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