Never feel lost or afraid

[ChrisN]

You have this forum and me in particular.
64 yo and have dealt with AS all my life. The important thing is you know you now. Know the love of our community. Embrace it.
Never feel never feelings.

 

[OkRad]

Thank you, Chris. I feel the same. I won't even check my email unless I am on Aspie Central because of the whole terror with emailing people and no replies and feeling alone all the time.

After a weird day, I come on here and people get it. And people who have been there and done that for a long time and not given up? Well, my admiration is there and also many knowing how much wisdom and courage is there.

Thanks for being here!!

 

[Full Steam]

I still find it strange how alike we all are, even with utterly different backgrounds and interests.

I'm very glad you're all here.

 

[FreeDiver]

I guess I should be content with the fact that I learned about it when I was 41. But the isolation that this condition creates can get unbearable at times. I have no friends, no family, and no job. Plus the constant torment of being reminded of the fact that you can't do things that everyone else around you just takes for granite and probably is unaware that they do. Going through life is a constant minefield of watching your step.

 

[Meg12]

I think life for most humans is difficult.....varying degrees of course. Maybe I just tell myself this as a coping mechanism but regardless... it works sometimes! It does get lonely when you feel as if no one else sees the world in the same way but what can we do? It's lonely at the top! (again.....just a coping strategy! ) I find it hard to believe that NT people walking around smiling all the time are truly as happy as they appear. Maybe that's their coping strategy.....

 

[xudo]

You have this forum and me in particular.
64 yo and have dealt with AS all my life. The important thing is you know you now. Know the love of our community. Embrace it.
Never feel never feelings.

I love this.

 

[Bolletje]

Such a lovely sentiment! Even though I've only been on these forums for two weeks I've already gotten so much out of it. A sense of belonging and of mutual understanding I didn't know I could find. Wish I'd found these forums sooner, but better late than never!

 

[Southern Discomfort]

Thanks, that's a nice thought. Someone made me feel really bummed out on the internet the other week just stating facts and I just felt so defeated as if my life has been predetermined that I'm going to be unsuccessful, that I'm going to be alone for all my life. But after all the shite that life's thrown at me I want to believe that one day it will be easier. That I will be functional. I want to believe.

 

[Full Steam]

Thanks, that's a nice thought. Someone made me feel really bummed out on the internet the other week just stating facts and I just felt so defeated as if my life has been predetermined that I'm going to be unsuccessful, that I'm going to be alone for all my life. But after all the shite that life's thrown at me I want to believe that one day it will be easier. That I will be functional. I want to believe.

I still get that sometimes. I wonder if its caused partly by my memory. When I get a hit that brings me down I have instant and perfect recall of countless times I've felt the same, and that leads to the conclusion that everything is bad.

It's not of course, it's just that I'm seeing only patterns of crap.

If I feel sick I do that same, and I also do the same when I feel really great, like when I've acheived something - it seems like I'm always acheiving great stuff!

What works for me is I tell my wife exactly how I feel (wasn't easy to start doing that), and she points out where my thinking and perspectives are flawed.

I'm sure this forum can do the same thing for anyone, any time.

 

[FreeDiver]

I think life for most humans is difficult.....varying degrees of course. Maybe I just tell myself this as a coping mechanism but regardless... it works sometimes! It does get lonely when you feel as if no one else sees the world in the same way but what can we do? It's lonely at the top! (again.....just a coping strategy! ) I find it hard to believe that NT people walking around smiling all the time are truly as happy as they appear. Maybe that's their coping strategy.....

You got a point there. But it still make's you feel like you're the only one who has problems in the world. You have no one in your life to share experiences with or to get advice from. You have no one in your life for reassurance and to be content. That seem to be a luxury that us aspie's just can't afford. Ever live with the fear of being forsaken?