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Need help figuring out how an autistic friend relates to parenting

Discussion in 'Friends, Family & Social Skills' started by Baeraad, Aug 19, 2019.

  1. Baeraad

    Baeraad Well-Known Member

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    (post deleted since the consensus seems to be "just stop thinking about it!" All right, then)
     
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  2. GadAbout

    GadAbout Well-Known Member

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    You are overly involved in your friends' decision-making about parenting. Limit your judgments about the wisdom of this to your own life.

    If I were your friend and aware that you are thinking so much about my personal decisions, I would be very uncomfortable with this. It really, truly, is none of your business.
     
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  3. Running Girl

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    Maternal instinct (and reproductive instinct) is very powerful to the point of making irrational decisions. Really most human instinct flies in the face of reason. I happened to have a kid who was an easy baby, and an easy child. Plus my mother helped a lot with giving me breaks, as most grandparents adore their grandkids. So in spite of my alone-time requirements and all the rest, i was at my best when interacting with my kid. That did change when she became a heroin and crack addict but thats another story....
     
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    tducey Well-Known Member

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    You can always give advice but it might be best if you let them make their own decisions.
     
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    Tom Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    If you start saving now, you may be able to afford a nice lego set gift for the kid's 10th birthday.
     
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    Fridgemagnetman I only have one V.I.P Member

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    Now you've said that, I really want to start thinking about it.

    Everyone has to think of something,right?

    Even nothing is something if it's a thought.
     
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    Gracey Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    I'm already thinking about it.

    given that most experiences would be unique,
    the title encouraged my curiosity.
     
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    Baeraad Well-Known Member

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    Yeah, well, the post is gone, but you can still see the immediate response I got. Apparently it wasn't an okay post to make.

    You can PM me if you really want to know, I guess.
     
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    Fridgemagnetman I only have one V.I.P Member

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    It was fine.

    I didnt see it but I know it was fine.

    All posts are. Even ones that on the surface are not liked.

    Everyone is an idiot unless you agree with them, then they're quite sensible.
     
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