My Dentist Causes Me Stress!

[Aspergers_Aspie]

My dental practice has caused me to be anxious. They haven't always got back to my emails. I prefer generally emails to face to face or phone calls. I discussed this with the Aspergers charity who I'm registered with who don't always get back to me. So I emailed them if something occurs that's not my fault as if I am brushing using mouthwash and using dental sticks, to say I don't have internet at home, I use the public library. I prefer emails but have to take phone calls, doing this a few times made me anxious maybe as most patients won't have this situation so I put my phone number at the end of the email and still they emailed me and rather call me, causing stress for me, an appointment being cancelled what someone could have had, reluctantly as it causes me a lot of stress I'm going to have to email them to say phone me rather than call me and put it on your system and if they won't I shall try citizens advice beaurea

 

[Suzanne]

I avoid them like the plague, I believe is that expression!

Recently, started to have a toothpain and tried in vain to ease it, but in the end, had to face that I needed to see the awful dentist, however, my husband phoned around and no one was taking new patients and then reconciled that I would have to see his awful dentist, so he made an appointment, but lol discovered that the day of the appointment coincided with him working quite far away and had to cancel and the dentist said he would arrange another appointment for me, but failed to get back in touch and I said: cancel! Cancel and since then, I am able to control the pain. It has not gone completely and no doubt, I should see a dentist, but from experience, you go once and they keep wanting to see you.

Huh, so I managed to avoid it again and will continue to do so.

Sorry, I guess that is not what you referred to, but just the mention of a dentist giving you stress, I had to answer with the above.

As for promised communications that fail. I hate that so much and like you, get stressed beyond belief.

 

[Au Naturel]

Dentists are getting hit hard by COVID too. It is difficult to work inside someone's mouth without risk.

Coping with the pain is a bad choice. Teeth don't heal. Fix it ASAP. It can only get worse and will never get better. Doesn't matter how much you don't like the dentist, tooth pain will get worse.

There is no "fault" in it. There is only what is. "Fault" is meaningful only for a person looking for someone to blame. Nothing good is gained by it, only hard feelings.

Their policy is probably to email their customers. You communicated by email and that's as far as they got. So someone emailed you instead of calling you. Nothing to stress over. Communication foul-ups like this happen all the time. Not your fault, not their fault, nobody will be administering punishment.

 

[Aspergers_Aspie]

Sorry they did email me to make a morning appointment that I missed, they did call but not till late afternoon, the staff who see me though are friendly towards me

 

[Aspergers_Aspie]

I don't think my practice would intentionally upset me, they have been friendly, helpful and understanding of my Aspergers

 

[Magna]

I can understand your stress about the dentist. Tooth pain or serious dental issues are one thing (ie shouldn't be ignored), but my issues with dentists are that most in my experience seem to want to push a lot of unnecessary dental work on me which greatly erodes my confidence in them.

I too get stressed about the dentist because of things including disease transmission potential. I was at a pre-Covid dental appointment some years ago and the hygienist (who was wearing gloves) went back and forth from having his fingers in my mouth to typing information on a computer keyboard with his gloved hands. I was shocked by that. That meant anyone with an exam prior to me that day had their saliva deposited on the keyboard by him and their saliva was going in my mouth. I never wanted to go back.