Hi everyone. My name is jay and I am so new to this all. I started dating someone two months ago. We seen each other on and off for a month and I never once thought he had high functioning autism. He didnt tell me until after we were facebook official and I thought he was just saying silly things to me because sometimes he does that.
There is so many amazing qualities he has but there is just moments where I question if I can manage this long term. In the time we have been together I have only seen him have an outburst twice but it has been recent and close together. I dont want it to continue. On valentines day Feb 14 and last night.
His state turns violent towards himself and I have never seen someone hit themselves and all I can do is cry because it scary. He bruised up his cheekbones and caused one of his eyes to have red blood looking spot. I have read online that it can happen when he feels he has no control over the situation I just dont know what to do.
When it happens I usually dont say anything because I am scared it will be the wrong thing and make it worse. He also saids things that are very hurtful during the episodes like that I make him do this and why do I turn him into this and I am the only person in his life and If I break up with him he will hurt himself..
He is also very obsessed with my phone like he thinks im upto something. I have told him to go through my phone and he has and he saids it because he has been cheated on before but he still continue to ask everytime my phone goes off who it is when it my family normally.
I just feel like I am walking on egg shells sometimes. He is one of the best boyfriends I have ever had he is hands on helps me with anything I need and so loving. Im afraid his controlling habbit's over me and these episodes may be to much for me over time.
There is so many amazing qualities he has but there is just moments where I question if I can manage this long term. In the time we have been together I have only seen him have an outburst twice but it has been recent and close together. I dont want it to continue. On valentines day Feb 14 and last night.
His state turns violent towards himself and I have never seen someone hit themselves and all I can do is cry because it scary. He bruised up his cheekbones and caused one of his eyes to have red blood looking spot. I have read online that it can happen when he feels he has no control over the situation I just dont know what to do.
When it happens I usually dont say anything because I am scared it will be the wrong thing and make it worse. He also saids things that are very hurtful during the episodes like that I make him do this and why do I turn him into this and I am the only person in his life and If I break up with him he will hurt himself..
He is also very obsessed with my phone like he thinks im upto something. I have told him to go through my phone and he has and he saids it because he has been cheated on before but he still continue to ask everytime my phone goes off who it is when it my family normally.
I just feel like I am walking on egg shells sometimes. He is one of the best boyfriends I have ever had he is hands on helps me with anything I need and so loving. Im afraid his controlling habbit's over me and these episodes may be to much for me over time.