Good example of how my memory works.
I'm gaming with someone and communicating through chat.
He tells me he just did a certain in game trick. I say that's cool I didn't know it worked that way. He says, you're the one who told me about it.
I can relate to that so much ! It was even bigger when I was a teen i could forget things I have said to my friends few days ago etc and apparently it was important.
Anyway, at the moment, I know I have a good memory overall.Short term Long term what ever.
But, I guess we have 3 issues related to memory in our community , I make general assumption only from my own experience, feel free to tell me that i am completely wrong ^^' :
First : we don't learn the same way others do.
We have been told to learn a way that may not suits how we function , When i was a kid like before 12 , I learned multiplication not by understanding what it meant but i remembered the page with the tables. I did it also later for an exam when I was 15.
Also learned a lot of things by singing them. Printing a rythm in my head.
Later on I had good memory in class by doing nothing in particular except from remembering the class I had about the subject of the test. Like when I say remember it's realy in a vivid way.
Also used my memory to turn the pages of the book i read etc.
What I can understand is that most of the time I just dont simply remember the fact I want to use, I need something around it either visual or auditive.
So as our memory doesnt work like others, we may not learn how to train it properly, or force ourselves to learn in a way that doesnt work with us.
Second : Our anxiety can block our memory.
I think this is why we have harder time remembering names for instance, when we are in a social situation or another situation that causes anxiety, we may not remember it properly, for instance I know i dont remember the digit of my therapist because everytime i got there it stresses me out.
Third : All our issues mixed all together trigger a lack of self esteem , we dont trust ourself anymore, so we dont trust our own memory. Even when you have the answer it takes longer to say it or you will not say it because you think you might be wrong due to some past mistakes.(everybody make mistakes we should learn to accept it.)
And I dont even bring the part where we are depressed and ofc at this moment our memory isnt realy good anymore. But this is temporary.