First, thank you for creating and keeping up this space. This forum has quickly become a retreat where I feel like I can read about others who experience the world the same way I do, and be supported/accepted. Thanks everyone.
@Coxhere's thread (What is love?) really triggered a lot of thought. I have typed and retyped below, but wiped it all out several times. I just can't talk about this easily, not yet at least.
Instead I will ask: if you are someone who has entered a "love" relationship without knowing you're autistic, and discovered it later:
1) did you experience labelling/negative namecalling/accusation because of your symptoms? i.e. did the expectation you're NT lead to negativity?
2) how did you resolve this? (if at all)
Thanks in advance for any thoughts. This is a really painful part of my diagnosis -- feeling shame for having hidden under my (unconsciously-created) mask, but having done the best I could the whole time. And it's never been enough.
@Coxhere's thread (What is love?) really triggered a lot of thought. I have typed and retyped below, but wiped it all out several times. I just can't talk about this easily, not yet at least.
Instead I will ask: if you are someone who has entered a "love" relationship without knowing you're autistic, and discovered it later:
1) did you experience labelling/negative namecalling/accusation because of your symptoms? i.e. did the expectation you're NT lead to negativity?
2) how did you resolve this? (if at all)
Thanks in advance for any thoughts. This is a really painful part of my diagnosis -- feeling shame for having hidden under my (unconsciously-created) mask, but having done the best I could the whole time. And it's never been enough.