Low key rejection hurts. We always want specific answers. Even if maybe it wouldn't make a difference. It's easier to handle low key rejection if someone truly intends to try to be platonic with you if not in a relationship, but this is usually not the case.
I'm really hurting right now, and I have mixed feelings about it all.
Like sadness and anger at myself that there were signs where instead of "trudging" through it and trying to make it work, I could've just moved on sooner.
Well, I was attracted to his physical appearance a lot even though most people thought he was just okay. I liked his kindness demeanor and some of his video game interests, and that we both had jobs and our own places.
I met this date through an app because he has family that lives near me. We connected by playing remote games with each other, and about 4 months later on, we came by my place and we had a little fun.
Then he got sick after staying at his parents for a few days. He ended up being in the hospital for two weeks. I almost brushed him off, but kept reaching out here and there, and eventually we did a video chat and I could see he really was in the hospital. He learned about my "label" then and we talked about our life situations.
We did more remote gaming about 2 more months, then I went to visit him and we agreed I'd stay three nights.
I live about a 4 hr drive away from him. It's about 6-7 if I'm trying to skip a $65 toll (which I did, lol).
During my visit, we enjoyed playing video games together. We always ate separately though and he didn't want to share any food with me except for the individualized drinks and snacks that he bought.
The second night I was there, I expressed my concerns about physicality and he said he wasn't able to be physical because of his condition. This was true basically, but it didn't clique with me entirely at the beginning. Then I asked him if he was interested in me and he said he didn't know. Things got awkward after that.
Right before I left, I asked about being friends and he said he was open to that. But then I told him that I still enjoy doing the remote gaming that we did before and that he was open to visit me to hang even if it's only platonic. His reply was that he was busy. Then I told him that as he already knows, I'm open to planning and that I wouldn't have been able to visit him if we didn't plan. So, of course he can plan with me. Nothing was said after that.
It hurt. Like a ton of bricks.
I didn't have a place I could belong with him despite connecting in a cool way with remote interactive fiction games- date or friendship.
I'm really hurting right now, and I have mixed feelings about it all.
Like sadness and anger at myself that there were signs where instead of "trudging" through it and trying to make it work, I could've just moved on sooner.
Well, I was attracted to his physical appearance a lot even though most people thought he was just okay. I liked his kindness demeanor and some of his video game interests, and that we both had jobs and our own places.
I met this date through an app because he has family that lives near me. We connected by playing remote games with each other, and about 4 months later on, we came by my place and we had a little fun.
Then he got sick after staying at his parents for a few days. He ended up being in the hospital for two weeks. I almost brushed him off, but kept reaching out here and there, and eventually we did a video chat and I could see he really was in the hospital. He learned about my "label" then and we talked about our life situations.
We did more remote gaming about 2 more months, then I went to visit him and we agreed I'd stay three nights.
I live about a 4 hr drive away from him. It's about 6-7 if I'm trying to skip a $65 toll (which I did, lol).
During my visit, we enjoyed playing video games together. We always ate separately though and he didn't want to share any food with me except for the individualized drinks and snacks that he bought.
The second night I was there, I expressed my concerns about physicality and he said he wasn't able to be physical because of his condition. This was true basically, but it didn't clique with me entirely at the beginning. Then I asked him if he was interested in me and he said he didn't know. Things got awkward after that.
Right before I left, I asked about being friends and he said he was open to that. But then I told him that I still enjoy doing the remote gaming that we did before and that he was open to visit me to hang even if it's only platonic. His reply was that he was busy. Then I told him that as he already knows, I'm open to planning and that I wouldn't have been able to visit him if we didn't plan. So, of course he can plan with me. Nothing was said after that.
It hurt. Like a ton of bricks.
I didn't have a place I could belong with him despite connecting in a cool way with remote interactive fiction games- date or friendship.