Matched with a guy on Bumble. Deleted my bumble profile. Guy now has my number and wants to call me everyday because he thinks I’m cute and thinks my body and physical features are attractive. Keep in mind we met yesterday and he’s jumping into plans of irl meetups. My dad is uncomfortable with me meeting ppl I don’t know unless he has talked to them personally, which turns me off from going out with my friends. The excuse is because I rarely do so since I lack friends that are my age. He has asked for “undressing” pics (presumably just me in a bra, which I sent one time and he wants more, which I’m uncomfortable with).
Im scared that I’m gonna be forever alone and have nobody to share my life with. The only real chance I get to socialize with ppl is at work.
I read the title of your thread properly now and I realize you were asking for information or advice. I will say what I can in a brief way. I can be fooled socially pretty easily and I have been, this is what I will say:
Take it as a sign of danger if you are clear with someone and they seem to ignore you. It will not get better and they may be planning something. To explain, a man I met kept insisting I come up to his apartment. I did not see the need but he was very insistent and he attacked me when we were inside. He put his arms around me and started trying to kiss me. He did not listen to me when I told him no. I realized later he must have been planning that.
See it as a warning sign if someone you just met starts talking about the two of you. It is called "forced intimacy". They might say "Let's (as in "let us") get your car washed / groceries upstairs etcetera. Anything that is only part of your life but they suddenly and inappropriately make it seem like you are joined in. It is a manipulative trick. I do not think nice people who are not trying to control you will do this.
Be careful with new people who say things that bother you and when you say so, they always say, "just kidding". They are trying to make you not feel alarmed or upset about something they did in fact say. Nice people will say sorry and not keep saying things that upset or hurt you. That is the difference.
Be careful with people who are never awkward about anything. Even calm confident people will feel odd in some situations, it is natural. If someone always seems confident and never feels they made a mistake, they are acting. Trying to perform in a way to charm you. You cannot know what a person doing this is really like and so cannot guess what they might do.
There is the physical place where you are, standing or sitting. And their place. The person can try to get closer to you somewhere in the middle but if they only come over into your space, they are being aggressive and in the right place and time it could be appropriate, like leaning in for a kiss or hug when you both feel that way. It can also be aggressive in a dangerous way. If you are in doubt and uncomfortable I would recommend asking or telling the person to not come so close and see if they are nice about it and move back or keep coming close again anyway. If they do the latter I think it is a dangerous sign.
I wrote so much I will stop.
