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Loneliness

Discussion in 'General Autism Discussion' started by agg1, Dec 30, 2019.

  1. agg1

    agg1 Active Member

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    1. I always was kind of a loner, not because I wanted to but cos I was and am just a sad weirdo and I have no idea whatsoever how to talk to ppl and make friends thus I end up feeling isolated a lot of time. I just would like to have friends but it's so hard.
     
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  2. Schism

    Schism Authentic Alien

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    Agg, you may be a loner & isolated. You may find it hard to talk to people and make friends. What you are definitely NOT is a sad weirdo. Well, I guess we have maybe have all been called that or thought that here at some point. That's why this forum exists. You've made the first step posting. We can all learn from each other here & try to put it out there in RL. It may be uncomfortable, it may take a while but you can learn tricks & techniques to 'talk' to people face to face. Especially if you get out and find a local club full of people who think just like, well, us. You are not alone here ☺

    I will add I have gone 5 days since going out of the house or speaking to another human being in RL!
     
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  3. Thinx

    Thinx Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    Yes I agree, it's hard. I hope you find some small steps you can take to feel less lonely - posting here is a good start, already.

    It's unstructured social interaction that is hardest, so maybe try some structured activities in areas you like, a class or interest group, something you look forward to. This works quite well for me, and also getting out for walks and exercise, it lifts my spirits, and gives me energy.

    We are all different, there's nothing wrong with being introvert or an individual, find what may work for you, and take small manageable steps towards your goals.
     
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    VAW Active Member

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    What is RL? Oh Real life..... lol I came from Round Lake, Il and for short we always abbr. R.L.
     
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  5. BlueSky Aozora

    BlueSky Aozora Well-Known Member

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    Yeah, agree that it is hard to find friends for autistic people. At least you want to.

    I agree that structured environment might be better, as long as you are ready/willing to try to adjust to that new environment. Finding that place might not be that easy too (not only time or physically, but maybe also mentally consuming) but it can be tried. I wish you and people with similar problem, all the best.
     
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