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Kind of confused by parents, even mine

Discussion in 'General Autism Discussion' started by William Weiler, Oct 11, 2020.

  1. William Weiler

    William Weiler Ad Astra V.I.P Member

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    They have this weird idea I should conform and be accepted, yet I prefer my one best friend and prefer to spend my time alone. I don't care so much for people who I need to act a certain way to accept me, can't I just hang with my friend's instead? What is wrong with the stuff I do or my interests if it makes me happy? If someone is missing an arm, it will frighten people because is is not typical. Should she wear a prosthetic arm so no one will be frightened? Maybe it is better people get used to her not having an arm? I kind of think my unusual behaviors are like that. And this weird idea everyone should see me as the same as them and therefore "safe", when most people ignore each other, or are indifferent? When I was at Xerox, I had to wear a suit so executives would be comfortable. They can't be comfortable if I don't wear one? That is kind of weird.
     
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  2. Progster

    Progster Gone sideways to the sun V.I.P Member

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    Yes, people feel threatened by things which are different or which they don't understand. I don't get or subscribe to a lot of 'culture' things such as dress code or certain activities, traditions or rituals - I have only one style, and that is casual/comfortable. Things need to have a practical purpose or benefit, or I won't want to do them, but most people don't think that way - herd mentality.
     
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    When in Rome....
     
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    Giraffes Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    Expectations to echo and fit in with 'the norm' or accept judgements, from some for your difference, this has been my experience.
     
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    Misery Photo-Negative V.I.P Member

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    Tribalism.

    Enough said.
     
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    Statest16 Active Member

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    I don't think most people would have an issue with a person with one arm,if there not using a prosthetic it's likely because it would not benefit them anyway.I don't imagine anyone would object to your friend
     
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    Your parents probably think you'd be happier if you had more friends and want what's best for you.
     
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    Sociologists have many theories for these kinds of necessities. Mores, norms, taboo, etc all within differing schools of thought. Structural Functionalism---you are part of a machine, like it or not. Conflict theory---some are oppressed and class division (difference division), symbolic theories revolve around thing we don't say and how that transmits information.......

    Clearly , no matter what camp you are in, society matters a lot. A terrible lot. And you will be made uncomfortable if you don't comply. It's a sad fact. Man is not an island.
     
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    Tom Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    I'm not surprised the people at Xerox wanted you to copy them.

    You are very lucky to still have your parents! :)
     
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  10. Aspychata

    Aspychata Serenity waves, beachy vibes

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    Corporate culture and identy are very important controls. The more you look, talk, walk, dress as part of the corporate tribe then the more the upper level feels better. It also means you are less likely to rebel.
     
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