Hi everyone, something just came up in my head, last semester at college, we would have these quizzes and we would do them in groups, even though I participated and talked, I just felt something off. Most of the other members were talking to one another ,except me. Is it possible they sensed something was wrong with me? like I was socially awkward, can neurotypicals sense something is not right with a person who has aspergers even though they don't know you have aspergers? Granted, they talked a lot more than I did, but I felt like they could've included me a lot more. Also, I wore the same clothes to class everyday, because I was lazy and didn't want to search for anything in my closet. I would rewash my shirts and pants everyday and wear them again, maybe they thought that was weird? Can anyone help me out on this?
Those who are good analyzers of others are often the very shy and introspective ones as opposed to the extroverted and outgoing ones. This is because instead of talking, the quieter persons are often watching and listening. They can either because of conditioning or genetics become more aware of the world around them through using their senses, whereas many vocal persons are often more focused on what they are saying to another, and just what that other they are talking to is saying. They can tune more other things out thus.
So, I think it all depends on what you mean by a neurotypical. I do not see myself as a neurotypical, as I have been diagnosed with Social Anxiety Disorder, and with OCD perfectionism traits, and was extremely dysfunctional socially my entire life and picked on. I looked abnormally shy and Avoidant. There is some small possibility I have higher functioning ASD, but one of the stereotypes of those who have that is they may have some difficulty putting themselves in other persons' shoes, but that actually is one of my biggest strengths I feel.
In my case, I am good at understanding all types of persons and in picking up on their gestures, mannerisms, postures, actions and inactions, and what they say or do not say. I knew something was different in our sons even soon after birth, much less at eighteen months, as they were having delays, and severe problems with eating and sleeping, too. So, I am constantly focused on details too, which I know those with ASD can be too, but I especially am good at focusing on persons. I love understanding why persons act as they do, and try to understand how each thinks and feels.
This does not mean that all quiet persons can be good at picking up on atypical traits in others, nor does it mean that talkative persons cannot, as some quiet persons could be more aloof and focused on other things instead, and as some outgoing persons could sense persons that looked so different than them, and as masking any shyness can occur, but in general, the deep thinkers are often quieter I feel, and the quieter ones are usually more vigilant as a protective need and to learn how to survive in this world through analysis of others, and to find happiness and success in this world with/without others.