cberg
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I'm trying to make my threads more & more informal & here are some reasons why. No need to read these in any particular order, I'm just musing about someone important to me & I think we're both pretty confused at this point. I'd strongly appreciate any of your thoughts.
I feel more & more like none of the conventional advice here applies to me at all. I think some of us are simply too different as a result of nature and our past to either need or expect the same things from our love lives as most people do.
I don't get closer to anyone by thinking in terms of standards or expectations.
I think the more we ignore this, the more we ignore ourselves & everyone around us. I can either live in denial because of a system that doesn't involve me or just focus on being a better person towards someone I care about. The choice is fairly obvious.
Considering that somebody in my life actually knows an honest representation of who I am, in some regards I guess I'm ahead of some people who do subscribe to the zeitgeist of modern social norms. I think I'd be remiss if I didn't offer my outside perspective to her once in a while, even though it can (& usually does) take both of us ages to process what all of this means.
I think people reject us when we're rejecting parts of ourselves. We need ways for all kinds of people to settle this type of internal conflict together because I think it's rare for just one person to be the cause of any division. Ignoring someone just because they've been dismissive does neither person any good. Nobody thinks the same way or wants the same things every day; the only constant is change. This can happen to anyone.
I feel more & more like none of the conventional advice here applies to me at all. I think some of us are simply too different as a result of nature and our past to either need or expect the same things from our love lives as most people do.
I don't get closer to anyone by thinking in terms of standards or expectations.
I think the more we ignore this, the more we ignore ourselves & everyone around us. I can either live in denial because of a system that doesn't involve me or just focus on being a better person towards someone I care about. The choice is fairly obvious.
Considering that somebody in my life actually knows an honest representation of who I am, in some regards I guess I'm ahead of some people who do subscribe to the zeitgeist of modern social norms. I think I'd be remiss if I didn't offer my outside perspective to her once in a while, even though it can (& usually does) take both of us ages to process what all of this means.
I think people reject us when we're rejecting parts of ourselves. We need ways for all kinds of people to settle this type of internal conflict together because I think it's rare for just one person to be the cause of any division. Ignoring someone just because they've been dismissive does neither person any good. Nobody thinks the same way or wants the same things every day; the only constant is change. This can happen to anyone.
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