Just life and inner work stuff (Update)

[aspieman2396]

Hi Guys!,

Long time no post. I just wanted to give you guys an update and stuff.

I have a job now! I work from home and go to the office as well, but since I'm kind of chubby, I prefer just to be at home. I am working on losing weight and it's been hard but I am on my way there and I have some muscle.

I have my own apartment now as well, I decorated it and did some projects and I feel proud of myself that I've been able to pull it off. The view from my window is very nice, I am enjoying the fall in my new city.

I have been seeing a therapist and processing my trauma. I have come to some startling realizations about my dad and his ex-wife. They had a dysfunctional relationship and my dad made a lot of mistakes in his life. I was abused by them and I still have dreams about them even though my dad is dead and his ex-wife lives somewhere else now. I realized my dad kept me protected in a messed up sort of way but it's now on me to protect myself and I think my intuition is kind of my dad being there and making amends for hurting me in life...

I have matured and I am trying my best to handle being an adult now, although I sleep with stuffed animals in my room and stuff. This is my space and no one can take it away from me. Gotta pay taxes, gotta pay the bills.

Relationship-wise, I have some new friends and for the first time in my life, I am not running away from my problems and withdrawing, I'm talking to people and just figuring out what's wrong. I have been slowly getting on the dating scene although, I'm taking it easy because I don't want to find an abusive woman like my dad did. You have no idea how much my dad's ex-wife damaged me. I have had thoughts about confronting her but I'm slowly letting go and leaving it to the man upstairs. I got triggered by them and their parenting style reading through emails of them and I have anxiety knowing that she's still out there and that she could hurt me again.

Anyways, that's about it!

 

[Orange Glasses]

@aspieman2396 -

Congratulations on getting a job and a new life!

It sounds like you are in a really good place both with your present life and your past. And it sounds like you worked for it. Bravo!

By the way, you look trim and fit Mr Bond.

 

[aspieman2396]

@aspieman2396 -

Congratulations on getting a job and a new life!

It sounds like you are in a really good place both with your present life and your past. And it sounds like you worked for it. Bravo!

By the way, you look trim and fit Mr Bond.

That's not what I look like lol. But thank you for the well wishes

 

[Alexandria]

Hi Guys!,

Long time no post. I just wanted to give you guys an update and stuff.

I have a job now! I work from home and go to the office as well, but since I'm kind of chubby, I prefer just to be at home. I am working on losing weight and it's been hard but I am on my way there and I have some muscle.

I have my own apartment now as well, I decorated it and did some projects and I feel proud of myself that I've been able to pull it off. The view from my window is very nice, I am enjoying the fall in my new city.

I have been seeing a therapist and processing my trauma. I have come to some startling realizations about my dad and his ex-wife. They had a dysfunctional relationship and my dad made a lot of mistakes in his life. I was abused by them and I still have dreams about them even though my dad is dead and his ex-wife lives somewhere else now. I realized my dad kept me protected in a messed up sort of way but it's now on me to protect myself and I think my intuition is kind of my dad being there and making amends for hurting me in life...

I have matured and I am trying my best to handle being an adult now, although I sleep with stuffed animals in my room and stuff. This is my space and no one can take it away from me. Gotta pay taxes, gotta pay the bills.

Relationship-wise, I have some new friends and for the first time in my life, I am not running away from my problems and withdrawing, I'm talking to people and just figuring out what's wrong. I have been slowly getting on the dating scene although, I'm taking it easy because I don't want to find an abusive woman like my dad did. You have no idea how much my dad's ex-wife damaged me. I have had thoughts about confronting her but I'm slowly letting go and leaving it to the man upstairs. I got triggered by them and their parenting style reading through emails of them and I have anxiety knowing that she's still out there and that she could hurt me again.

Anyways, that's about it!

All the best to you. May you go from strength to strength

 

[Aspychata]

This is another success story and a continuing success story. It's motivates me to keep walking my path. Thank you for being great in updating us and giving hope to others here. People don't realize how important it is to give the good news of life success.

You have accomplish so much. I find so much childhood trauma here, have my own to deal with, meet others with it, and it's quite surprising how widespread it is.

I tend to eat my feelings. In times of stress, l binge or l stop eating. I have two extremes. Do you eat your emotions? It's like when we can't acknowledge feeling raw? So l guess eating kind of numbs me for at least 30 minutes until l start thinking about something else

Congrats.

 

[Mrs mac]

Well done..it's no mean feat getting over that trauma..you're doing just great..x

 

[Gerald Wilgus]

Think about how far you have come! My therapy for past trauma from social isolation has been Cognitive Processing Therapy. That took a lot of work and self examination.