Is it only Aspies who remember birthdays?

[Tuffsy]

This is definitely a rhetorical question, as the answer is Yes, without a doubt. But since Facebook has been telling people when their friend's birthdays are people (NTs) just don't have a clue. Ok, it's my birthday today and only my daughter remembered. Like many of us, I don't have many close friends, but I always wish them a happy birthday. I don't have a FB account with friends, only for music, so no one remembered. I don't really care, but I would feel terrible if I were one of those friends who didn't wish me a happy birthday! "Happy birthday to me!!!" LOL

 

[Outdated]

Happy birthday old mate.

I'm one of those that doesn't bother with birthdays, or any other anniversaries for that matter. I never celebrate my own birthday, let alone anyone else's. One year my sister phoned me and asked me if I was going to send Dad a father's day card, I said No. She asked me why not and I said "Well I can't start playing favourites now, can I?".

 

[Tired]

Happy birthday!

No, NTs can remember dates as well lol
I guess those people don't think you're worth enough to take a precious space in their memory? Or in their calendar.

 

[Jumpinbare]

Happy birthday!

I am horrible at merembering birthdays, anniversaries, or other special days. If someone tells me happy birthday, I have to think about whether it actually is or not.

 

[Mary Terry]

Happy birthday, @Tuffsy! I hope you have a great day.

My nephew has an amazing ability to remember everyone's birthday (he never forgets!) and the ability to mentally calculate the day of the week that anyone was born on, if he knows the day, month and year of birth. I don't know how his brain does it, but he quickly makes the calculation including the effect of leap years and announces what day anyone was born on. He is never wrong.

Me? I remember birthdays for my family, but I use a calendar to keep up with other birthdays. Every January, I take the calendar for the previous year where I have written down important dates and transfer that information to the new calendar.

 

[Neonatal RRT]

I generally do not remember anything "people" related. Names, dates, phone numbers, street names, etc... don't remember at all. My wife (NT), on the other hand, remembers all of that for the both of us.

Skills, facts and data... I do remember... for the both of us.

It takes 2 people to make 1 whole one in our case.

 

[Masked Man]

Generally I remember birthdays, but I do it because it's important to that other person and they appreciate it. For myself, I don't really care, but I know other people might care that people remember them on their birthday, (or whatever special day it might be), so that's why I do it.

 

[WhitewaterWoman]

Happy Birthday, Tuffy.

 

[the_tortoise]

Happy belated birthday, Tuffsy!

(I just saw this but I am terrible with remembering any significant date - most of the time I don't know what day of the week nor calendar date it is...and it was no different when I had a highy scheduled life)

 

[Tuffsy]

Happy belated birthday, Tuffsy!

(I just saw this but I am terrible with remembering any significant date - most of the time I don't know what day of the week nor calendar date it is...and it was no different when I had a highy scheduled life)

Thank you so much!!

 

[JayLapointe]

This is definitely a rhetorical question, as the answer is Yes, without a doubt. But since Facebook has been telling people when their friend's birthdays are people (NTs) just don't have a clue. Ok, it's my birthday today and only my daughter remembered. Like many of us, I don't have many close friends, but I always wish them a happy birthday. I don't have a FB account with friends, only for music, so no one remembered. I don't really care, but I would feel terrible if I were one of those friends who didn't wish me a happy birthday! "Happy birthday to me!!!" LOL

A belated Merry Birthmas to you.

I think I must be in that opposite camp because I never remember birthdays, anniversaries, heck I'm lucky keeping track of the day of the week. If I wasn't getting told by FB when folks have a bday, or the Office list on our notice board here at work, I wouldn't remember anyone. Heck, it's terrible to say but I'm in my 40's and I'm not entirely sure when my own parents bday's are. I know they are a week apart in mid July with their wedding anniversary in the middle. Ask me for dates, sorry.

Though I've mentioned elsewhere that a lot of that has to do with the fact my parents raised me not to celebrate holidays/anniversaries/bdays. When you actively don't celebrate, there isn't much point to remember the dates that are essentially made meaningless at that point.

 

[Mary Terry]

This is definitely a rhetorical question, as the answer is Yes, without a doubt. But since Facebook has been telling people when their friend's birthdays are people (NTs) just don't have a clue. Ok, it's my birthday today and only my daughter remembered. Like many of us, I don't have many close friends, but I always wish them a happy birthday. I don't have a FB account with friends, only for music, so no one remembered. I don't really care, but I would feel terrible if I were one of those friends who didn't wish me a happy birthday! "Happy birthday to me!!!" LOL

I just want to point out that many NTs, including myself, do not have Facebook accounts and we certainly remember significant birthdays. We probably don't remember birthdates for people who are not significant to our lives. I think it is the same for the ND population.

 

[velociraptor]

I'm an Aspie and I'm horrid at remembering birthdays as they are not important to me. It is my NT wife who keeps me out of trouble here. I do enter birthdays for people who are important to me into Google Calendar. It helps me look less gormless in this department.