I like when my NT daughter in law and I compare notes. I realize it doesn't fit everyone, but it does help understand some of the differences in how we think. We were talking the other day about small talk and I was (on my mind because of conversation here) lost when it come to what to say to people IRL. She was saying it was hard for her to grasp the difficulty in that. I think what it is, is that she's a product of her environment. She lives in her environment more and these things do just come naturally. I live more inside my head. While I've always been instructed how to act and how to be, it doesn't match my insides. It never has. I once asked a friend how she can so easily get the dr to put her on Xanax or whatever she wants, I can't seem to convince them that I need anything. She said it was because I appear calm on the outside. She's right. On the outside I'm as calm as a cucumber while my insides are a 100 mph train wreck. I've always said my insides don't match my outsides. Even who I am doesn't match. So I truly exist more on the inside, and though I can sometimes play the part, still don't understand and live in my environment. I exist in my environment and live in my head.
Also explains the difference in how we are able to see things. She always says she is not creative and has no imagination at all and always impressed with how my son (her husband) and I so easily come up with ways to do things and make it look good. Because she doesn't look past her environment. I see the things in my head that I'm wanting to do, then figure out how to do it. Example: I was gluing some molding on my wall to look like a chair rail (had to glue because it's a concrete wall). When I got the molding it was a beige color. When she asked and I told her what I was doing, all she could picture was it being a light color and suggested I paint it white. I just said, "Uh huh" because I knew I'd not get her to see anything else. I painted it a very dark brown and it's perfect. She loves it and says she would have never thought of that.
I also wonder if the same explains why everything I do IRL feels the same (feels wrong). As a nurse I was able to start iv's that no one else had been able to get so they'd wait until I came in to work. Sometimes I'd figure out something with a patient that others didn't see and it would be a very good thing. But doing something good like that felt the same as doing something bad. I know I used to tell my sister it was amazing that I didn't end up some kind of criminal. I do know right from wrong and have strong morals, but whatever I do, maybe it feels the same because that's the outside me that I just can't seem to match up with.
I also used to feel like I could easily relate to Rainman living in his own little world.
There's a lot of very intelligent people out there that I would really like to get their opinions on this.
Also explains the difference in how we are able to see things. She always says she is not creative and has no imagination at all and always impressed with how my son (her husband) and I so easily come up with ways to do things and make it look good. Because she doesn't look past her environment. I see the things in my head that I'm wanting to do, then figure out how to do it. Example: I was gluing some molding on my wall to look like a chair rail (had to glue because it's a concrete wall). When I got the molding it was a beige color. When she asked and I told her what I was doing, all she could picture was it being a light color and suggested I paint it white. I just said, "Uh huh" because I knew I'd not get her to see anything else. I painted it a very dark brown and it's perfect. She loves it and says she would have never thought of that.
I also wonder if the same explains why everything I do IRL feels the same (feels wrong). As a nurse I was able to start iv's that no one else had been able to get so they'd wait until I came in to work. Sometimes I'd figure out something with a patient that others didn't see and it would be a very good thing. But doing something good like that felt the same as doing something bad. I know I used to tell my sister it was amazing that I didn't end up some kind of criminal. I do know right from wrong and have strong morals, but whatever I do, maybe it feels the same because that's the outside me that I just can't seem to match up with.
I also used to feel like I could easily relate to Rainman living in his own little world.
There's a lot of very intelligent people out there that I would really like to get their opinions on this.
