Alexz7272
Active Member
Hello,
So until recently I was unaware that my partner has aspergers. It was something he had been taught to not acknowledge. I finally got the truth out of him as we have started planning our future together. A little back story, according to him, I knew that he was tested for dyslexia in college and it was considered severe. His father had mentioned to me before that he had been tested for other like differences (I hate to say disorders and I do not know the correct terminology, I truly am sorry), after we were joking around that he had ADD cause he jumped from thing to another. His father told me that he tested for something but they refused to give him medication or counseling as a child. Wasn't my place to say anything so I did not. Well when he told me recently about him 'possibly' having aspergers it all sorta made sense. He told me that when he was in elementary school he had been tested and placed into a 'special' class for portions of the day, maybe the whole day not 100%. His parents were unhappy that he was with the 'stupid' kids, removed him and placed him in private school. He went back to public school in high school where they wanted to test him again but his parents refused. Now my significant other is absolutely BRILLIANT. He is a mechanical and electrical engineer and we run our own small business on top of our 'normal' jobs, doing consulting and literally creating inventions, there is no stopping his mind, he always has a creation. He is extremely high functioning. Now that I know, I completely understand much more the way he acts and I now know how to work on us to keep us moving forward. But there is one thing I am hung up on, his parents ignorance. One of his cousins is also a high functioning aspie, although his is full blown whereas my significant others is not to the same full spectrum. It concerns, and upsets me, that his parents, knowing that his cousin has it and it runs in the family apparently, would be so stand-offish in the matter. It was explained to me that they refused any type of helped offered (based on as well as my S.O. could remember as a child). Am I crazy for being upset that they saw the signs but never allowed him access to consulting or anything to help him learn coping skills specific to how his brain works? It has been really itching at me and I feel that they did him a major disservice and did not take his well-being into consideration. With that being said, there is absolutely no way I am leaving him and I will continue to do everything I can to help and continue forward. I just cannot believe his parents could not care as much when he was a child. Hope I am not crazy for being rather unhappy.
So until recently I was unaware that my partner has aspergers. It was something he had been taught to not acknowledge. I finally got the truth out of him as we have started planning our future together. A little back story, according to him, I knew that he was tested for dyslexia in college and it was considered severe. His father had mentioned to me before that he had been tested for other like differences (I hate to say disorders and I do not know the correct terminology, I truly am sorry), after we were joking around that he had ADD cause he jumped from thing to another. His father told me that he tested for something but they refused to give him medication or counseling as a child. Wasn't my place to say anything so I did not. Well when he told me recently about him 'possibly' having aspergers it all sorta made sense. He told me that when he was in elementary school he had been tested and placed into a 'special' class for portions of the day, maybe the whole day not 100%. His parents were unhappy that he was with the 'stupid' kids, removed him and placed him in private school. He went back to public school in high school where they wanted to test him again but his parents refused. Now my significant other is absolutely BRILLIANT. He is a mechanical and electrical engineer and we run our own small business on top of our 'normal' jobs, doing consulting and literally creating inventions, there is no stopping his mind, he always has a creation. He is extremely high functioning. Now that I know, I completely understand much more the way he acts and I now know how to work on us to keep us moving forward. But there is one thing I am hung up on, his parents ignorance. One of his cousins is also a high functioning aspie, although his is full blown whereas my significant others is not to the same full spectrum. It concerns, and upsets me, that his parents, knowing that his cousin has it and it runs in the family apparently, would be so stand-offish in the matter. It was explained to me that they refused any type of helped offered (based on as well as my S.O. could remember as a child). Am I crazy for being upset that they saw the signs but never allowed him access to consulting or anything to help him learn coping skills specific to how his brain works? It has been really itching at me and I feel that they did him a major disservice and did not take his well-being into consideration. With that being said, there is absolutely no way I am leaving him and I will continue to do everything I can to help and continue forward. I just cannot believe his parents could not care as much when he was a child. Hope I am not crazy for being rather unhappy.