Aspergers_Aspie
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If a woman says she loves you to a man but then wears revealing clothing when out in a friend group to a club, would the woman don't you think wear non revealing clothing?
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Yikes, I disagree with you there. Oversimplification and generalization to a high degree. 100%?@Aspergers_Aspie
Is this about you or someone else?
FWIW, in general, the scenario you've described is a negative indicator.
For a given individual, if the clothes they wear when out with single friends is significantly more "revealing" than what they wear when they're out with their SO, it's not because they like that kind of clothing, it's 100% because they're looking for attention from men other than the SO.
The answer to the question is irrelevant in this case. The simple fact that you feel the need to ask this question says that you have doubts about the relationship.If a woman says she loves you to a man but then wears revealing clothing when out in a friend group to a club, would the woman don't you think wear non revealing clothing?
Yes I can see that now thanksNot necessarily. ”Revealing clothing” may not mean anything more than that she likes those clothes. To her, it could be fashionable or fun or even comfortable. Her clothing choices are no reflection on how much she can love someone.
On one hand, there are some situations where, if a partner is not happy with the relationship, for whatever reason, and is not communicating, or the other person is not receptive, there may be some truth to the fact that someone may be "putting new bait on the hook". That new boob job, or suddenly becoming healthy and fit, might not be for you, but someone else in the future.
On the other hand, as others mentioned, it may be for you, it may be for their own self-esteem to look attractive. "I've got a partner, but thanks for looking."
When in doubt, communicate.
A story:
A few years back, my wife and I were at the local farmer's market. This couple walks in, the woman is probably in her mid-40's, pleasant looking, well put together, she's wearing this bright magenta dress, nothing revealing per se, but it fit her well and she looked great in it. I also noticed an implantable device for intravenous access under her left clavicle. These are typically used for infusions of cancer meds, etc. Let's say she's been though some scary health issues.
At any rate, my wife and I are done shopping, and standing there at the checkout register, this couple walks up behind us ready to check out, as well. Just as we are done, I looked back at this woman and say, "That dress looks great on you." She lights up with a smile. I didn't even look at her husband. Then my wife and I walk out.
My wife gets in the car, gives me a kiss, and says, "That was so sweet of you."
In that moment, I realized, I probably got that man laid. It's one thing for a husband to say to his wife, "You look beautiful." It's quite another when another man confirms it. The level of self-esteem rises quite a bit.
If a woman says she loves you to a man but then wears revealing clothing when out in a friend group to a club, would the woman don't you think wear non revealing clothing?
Thanks. I have an unfortunate habit of acting on impulse rather than taking a step back.Why?
Every time you're in a relationship it's a jump into the unknown, sadly, what she wears does not reflect about how she feels.
You can't only look at one specific thing and say "Yep, she doesn't love me"
That thought destroyed a LOT of my former relationships my friend and it's very unhealthy. Unless she has given you other indications of her not loving you anymore there is nothing to worry about.
Also, why come to a forum to ask this instead of talking to her directly?
Look at it from the perspective that, unfortunately, it seems a lot of women have self-esteem issues. Many women want to be attractive, period. It's often for them. It may have nothing to do with "looking for another" or being "promiscuous". It may have nothing to do with your partner's feelings towards you. It's a huge dopamine hit for someone to give you notice, man or a woman, as was in my example above.I dont understand I have a partner thanks for looking, to me she would either have feelings for her partner and therefore have no interest in others or doesn't really have feelings for her partner