Hey there,
I have recently broken up with my boyfriend of over 4 years. I suspected he might have Aspergers about 2 years ago. I didn't discuss it with him then as I didn't know enough about it but he does seem to demonstrate a lot of the traits. Also I didn't know if I should bring it up as I didn't want to upset him, also I didn't think it was my place to air my views in that regard.
The main reason apart from his 'oddness' (inappropriate topics of conversation, obsessions, avoidance of social situations) was that my mum became critically ill and he didn't seem to want or know how to comfort me. In fact in one telephone conversation where I was informing him of my mums worsening condition he corrected my grammar, I thought he was joking at the time (a badly timed one)
I knew he was kind of odd and a bit eccentric but I am quite drawn to that type of person, he's also very attractive and has a great sense of humour. I am 15 years older than him and the age difference never bothered him, he only had nice things to say about my physical appearance and said I would always be young to him. I found him very endearing and sweet natured, very immature at times but I can be too!
The first time we had a major disagreement, he seemed to take it very personally. We had made some plans that I backed out of and he couldn't seem to accept that plans change for all sorts of reasons. He stormed off, unfollowed me on social media and was really cold on the phone. He took the change in plans as rejection even though he himself backed out of plans so many times. He never wanted to go out (almost never) If we did it was because I coerced him into it, I always felt he was reluctant to do so. Every suggestion I made was met with 'what's the point'. Even a suggestion of going to the beach was met with 'I've seen the sea before, its always the same'
I have recently broken up with my boyfriend of over 4 years. I suspected he might have Aspergers about 2 years ago. I didn't discuss it with him then as I didn't know enough about it but he does seem to demonstrate a lot of the traits. Also I didn't know if I should bring it up as I didn't want to upset him, also I didn't think it was my place to air my views in that regard.
The main reason apart from his 'oddness' (inappropriate topics of conversation, obsessions, avoidance of social situations) was that my mum became critically ill and he didn't seem to want or know how to comfort me. In fact in one telephone conversation where I was informing him of my mums worsening condition he corrected my grammar, I thought he was joking at the time (a badly timed one)
I knew he was kind of odd and a bit eccentric but I am quite drawn to that type of person, he's also very attractive and has a great sense of humour. I am 15 years older than him and the age difference never bothered him, he only had nice things to say about my physical appearance and said I would always be young to him. I found him very endearing and sweet natured, very immature at times but I can be too!
The first time we had a major disagreement, he seemed to take it very personally. We had made some plans that I backed out of and he couldn't seem to accept that plans change for all sorts of reasons. He stormed off, unfollowed me on social media and was really cold on the phone. He took the change in plans as rejection even though he himself backed out of plans so many times. He never wanted to go out (almost never) If we did it was because I coerced him into it, I always felt he was reluctant to do so. Every suggestion I made was met with 'what's the point'. Even a suggestion of going to the beach was met with 'I've seen the sea before, its always the same'
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