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I hate grocery stores.

Discussion in 'PDD-NOS, Social Anxiety and Others' started by LittleLemon, Nov 13, 2016.

  1. Icequeen

    Icequeen Active Member

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    I probably would have given her an evil smile and said...yes, as a matter of fact, I do. ;)

    There's nothing wrong with you, things like this used to bother me quite a bit and shake me up also, my mom used to laugh and tell me just hang in there until you get older, you'll get tougher.

    I hit 40...now 50...and mom was right. ;)

    We have a smaller Walmart near us...I like to shop in the early morning hours or late at night when I can. Some times I basically have the store to myself. It's close enough that I can circle the lot and say "nope...maybe later" if it looks too crowded. Some days I'll park over at the garden center, sprint through the store...grab the milk and sprint back to the garden center where the checkouts are empty and the cashier looks like she's dying of boredom.:D

    You have to find the best times, days, and methods that make it easier for you. If you can get it figured out and have a game plan ahead of time, it makes it a lot less stressful. Good luck.
     
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  2. Nitro

    Nitro Admin/Immoral Turpitude Staff Member Admin V.I.P Member

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    I used to park near the auto center, gather what I wanted and then check out in the sporting goods section of a huge one I lived near.

    In and out on Christmas eve in under a half hour was a record that shall never fall :D
     
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  3. balsabonbon

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    I can only handle certain grocery stores at certain times. WalMart is extremely stressful for me even on a good day when it's the middle of the week and there aren't a lot of people milling about. On a weekend with the kids with me? Horrible! I tend to pay a bit more to shop at a smaller store without as many people, just so that the experience isn't as terrible for me.
     
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  4. ScottyLambertJediKnight

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    I don't like public places in general
     
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  5. Aspychata

    Aspychata Serenity waves, beachy vibes

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    The only place rude people can go is the grocery store, once you have that insight, you will function better at stores. If you assume that they are upset about something going down in their life that they have no control over, you will blossom. l basically go to the store, realise that a lot people are idiots, therefore l don't engage in losing my emotions or responding to anything going down around me. It really helps me.
     
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  6. Progster

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    It's not the grocery stores that I hate so much as the people in them... the queues, the families with noisy kids, people who won't keep themselves to themselves. People passing in front of me when I'm trying to read something. Then there's the irriting, absolutely awful waily or otherwise insipid background music... or the beeping scanner which is way too loud, and squeeking carts. Just about tolerable with earplugs or headphones and music, I try to go during school or work hours and avoid peak hours. If I don't have a list to focus on, I get distracted or sidetracked and spend way too much time.
     
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    Oldlady Well-Known Member

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    I was raised in a very aggressive/angry household and learned very young that having a temper could shield me from the world. How? My natural tendency for sensitivity and self-consciousness go out the window when I lose my temper. I just don't care about anything, but getting the target of my wrath.

    This is where I have found my temper to be very helpful. But, there is a price to pay for having a temper, a big price. So ... I think the better way to deal with these situations is to work on becoming assertive and confident and then letting the sort of situation you describe slide, knowing that if you really need to ... you can unleash the kraken.
     
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  8. Aspychata

    Aspychata Serenity waves, beachy vibes

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    l basically use humor to cope with things, l find that breaking up the drama, trauma, diva pigs, with laughter is quick and painless. A fast repartee can soothe even tense situations, or put people in a monetary stun affect.
     
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  9. justin_havu

    justin_havu Well-Known Member

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    Had my last visit to a grocery store about 30 minutes ago. Too crowded, too many people just standing around not knowing how to grab and go. Self-scan was completely mobbed, had to wait around the corner for a good 20 minutes before being able to jump in and start cashing myself out. Then a few seconds later, it was mobbed again. Too crowded! I was anxious, extremely angry, and trembling all over. I left the store empty handed, never to return. I’d rather starve to death than ever set foot in any grocery store again.
     
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  10. Matthias

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    Grocery stores that offer a good value are busy because so many people are out of work and want cheap food. The more expensive stores are mostly empty.
     
  11. Ezra

    Ezra Relax, it's just chaos.

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    I also shop late at night in the middle of the week to have the place to myself as much as possible. Although sometimes the cleaning crew already has one of those noisy floor buffers going, which bothers me of course.

    As for people being rude for no reason, I try to write it off as a psychological problem on their part.
     
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    Yep. Done this one quite a few times