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I spent the last couple of days telling this to one of my closest friends, probably because I needed to hear it for myself. Funny how that works.I would love to have coffee with you but you'd have to come here, Australia has the best coffee in the world. Starbucks failed here because they were overpriced and their coffee was crap.
Simple facts of life my friend:
If you do not respect yourself then no one else will have respect for you either.
If you do not love yourself then no one else will love you either.
They are facts of life, how you deal with them is up to you.
I want most of my family to taste my bile. But frankly they could not possibly care any less about how I feel.You will cycle thru hate with those family members. Then you will cycle thru forgiveness with yourself, and maybe family members. Then you will get stronger.
Sorry I cants sip coffee with you Mon eve - due to time zones - but I am sipping coffee now. 8am my timeA part of me wanted to make a post for acceptance here, but I realize I need to love and take care of myself first. External validation is an addiction like any other and it will get me nowhere.
So who wants to sip coffee with me this Monday evening?
Metalhead, I'm sorry if I missed this or can't remember, but do you work with a therapist? A lot of what you're going through is so big that many people will work with a therapist toward some of the goals that you seem to have.My heart is a miasma of rage and hurt. So much happened to me as a child that should never happen to any child. And the only response I get from most people is “get over it”. Like it is easy to get over being raped by relatives as a child, then being forced to hug and make up with the abusers by his parents.
So much hate in my heart, my spirit, my soul.
In my country the therapists are backward thinking, in some small states as well not much changes. We don't all have private fees and office and environ can upset sensory as well as my trouble was talking about emotions and worst was waiting for Monday to try express weekend issue and by Monday I couldn't feel to talk. I can't switch on/off and needed a responsive support group.Metalhead, I'm sorry if I missed this or can't remember, but do you work with a therapist? A lot of what you're going through is so big that many people will work with a therapist toward some of the goals that you seem to have.
I accept the idea that therapy can be challenging and not everyone is open to the idea of working with a therapist. But on the other side of that, many of us here on the forum have greatly benefited from a therapeutic relationship with a mental health provider.
Childhood trauma and the abuse that you incurred are things that can be very difficult to figure out on your own, or even with supportive friends. Most people in your situation need some level of professional support to move past these things in life.
As I said, I recognize therapy is not accessible or useful to every person out there. But for some of us, myself included, it was life-saving. It is worth mentioning and it is worth considering even though it will not always be the answer for everyone.In my country the therapists are backward thinking, in some small states as well not much changes. We don't all have private fees and office and environ can upset sensory as well as my trouble was talking about emotions and worst was waiting for Monday to try express weekend issue and by Monday I couldn't feel to talk. I can't switch on/off and needed a responsive support group.
Pls don't say things like this, I spent years studying those days called correspondence not home schooling. And same with therapy I had to find self help books. I can't trust or talk to a stranger, some of us are fearful of doctors due to medication or the shrink telling family had things, this doesn't help when it's already so hard for us with ASD to ask for help
It is also worth noting downfalls, so like church many more would go if it wasn't for Christians.As I said, I recognize therapy is not accessible or useful to every person out there. But for some of us, myself included, it was life-saving. It is worth mentioning and it is worth considering even though it will not always be the answer for everyone.
I am working with a therapist these days. Hey, at least I moved past the point where I drowned out my anger with rivers of beer. That is progress.Metalhead, I'm sorry if I missed this or can't remember, but do you work with a therapist? A lot of what you're going through is so big that many people will work with a therapist toward some of the goals that you seem to have.
I accept the idea that therapy can be challenging and not everyone is open to the idea of working with a therapist. But on the other side of that, many of us here on the forum have greatly benefited from a therapeutic relationship with a mental health provider.
Childhood trauma and the abuse that you incurred are things that can be very difficult to figure out on your own, or even with supportive friends. Most people in your situation need some level of professional support to move past these things in life.