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I feel like going in for a diagnosis is disrespectful

Discussion in 'Help and Support' started by PaperTugBoat, Nov 24, 2019.

  1. PaperTugBoat

    PaperTugBoat New Member

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    For my entire 18 years of life I've been ADHD, ODD with social issues and several sensory issues. However, for the past 2 years I've been having doubts about my early childhood diagnoses.
    Despite this I can't get myself to call for a diagnosis because I feel so disrespectful going in. I've heard people jokingly say they must have ADHD because they sometimes can't focus my entire life and it use to really bother me as a kid. But here I am at 18 thinking I may be autistic because of the reasons listed above and more.
    I just can't shake that I'm wasting a doctor's time going in because of a whim and it's really the only thing stopping me from setting up an appointment.
     
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    Crossbreed Neur-D Missionary ☝

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  3. Bolletje

    Bolletje Potato chip wizard V.I.P Member

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    Maybe instead of being disrespectful you could think of it as being thorough. A lot has changed since you first received your diagnosis, why not make sure your diagnoses are still correct?
     
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    PaperTugBoat New Member

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    To diagnosed ASD people I guess. I just feel bad that I'm doing the suggesting myself instead of a doctor even though I haven't gone to a therapist for years.
    It feels like I'm sterotyping even though I'm going off actual symptoms I've studied.
     
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    Streetwise very cautious contributor V.I.P Member

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    I know what you mean I felt the same when they said I was autistic but I thought it sounds disrespectful to ask them any more than they've already done they tried to help me a few times and I couldn't go and see them! but it was so fast ,I still keep thinking am I really autistic, I still keep thinking it's borderline personality disorder because it fit to a certain degree and someone had suggested it. But I don't want to make them angry it always ends up if I talk to people I make them angry I don't mean to to I just don't have the ability to talk in a complex way and it might be a long time before my emotions are completely mature
     
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    Competent autism specialists won't give you that diagnosis, if it doesn't fit.
     
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    Progster Gone sideways to the sun V.I.P Member

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    Seeking a diagnosis is respectful to yourself, an acknowledgement of your difficulties and need to have answers/help, and in no way disrespectful to anyone else. There are good, valid reasons why the condition is categorised by the medical profession, and why one should seek the diagnosis if one feels it is necessary.
     
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    It's not any way disrespectful to get tested. I am telling myself that now and I struggle with the idea as well. It's tough. It definitely makes it hard to seek out help when I think that way. Here's to both us taking the next step.