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I broke down and cried at work

Discussion in 'Help and Support' started by Markness, Mar 19, 2021.

  1. Markness

    Markness Young God

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    True but a lot of people in my state have been rejecting wearing masks, not doing social distancing, and even refusing to take the vaccines. Part of it is due to our governor lifting the restrictions unless businesses decide to maintain the policy but Texans are also generally stubborn people. However, I’ve actually heard someone in earshot say that wearing a mask “denies the breath of life God gave you” and I’ve heard second hand that he thinks the vaccine will make you go to Hell if you take it. Seriously?!? o_O That is ridiculous!

    I do wish there were more groups for adults in their 20’s-30’s. Most social events tend to cater to children and the elderly.
     
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    Markness Young God

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    I’ve been keeping my eyes peeled for one. One thing I’ve noticed in my area is that things like go kart race tracks and jungle gyms even for adults are springing up. I never thought those things would occur here in my lifetime.
     
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    Kalinychta Well-Known Member

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    The thing, though, is that you’re convinced that your loneliness and unhappiness will be expunged the minute you find a girlfriend. This is fatal thinking. You are unhappy because YOU are unhappy, and no human-who-has-a-vagina is going to relieve you of your misery. If you find a girlfriend who is even halfway normal (mentally healthy), she’s going to run from you like the plague within months. Learn to love yourself. Be happy and fulfilled being alone, with you. You can’t expect anyone else to until you yourself do.
     
  4. Markness

    Markness Young God

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    Again, please hear me out. I keep the fact I have clinical depression under wraps when meeting women in person because even I know that it’s not something to tell strangers right off the bat. Should the speed dating event finally happen, I won’t say I have clinical depression as a conversation point.

    A part of me realizes I need to overcome feeling incomplete. When I find the time, I want to get back into writing, drawing, and playing the guitar again. I also still meet with my friend who is teaching me martial arts. He did unintentionally cut my knuckle open because he thought the cooking appliance he used for sparring like a sword was blunt but it apparently wasn’t. Hopefully the practice weapons he ordered will come soon.
     
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    Markness Young God

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    I tend to do better if I am talking to one or two people at the same time and if things like alcohol aren’t involved. If the number is higher, it becomes daunting but that also depends on the situation. If I am gaming with friends, I can handle there being more than two people to talk to but if it’s something like work or being around a bunch of strangers, it’s overkill.
     
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    The bar \pub is supposed to be a do everything between 18 and death in the uk
     
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    Markness Young God

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    We have pubs in the US. The closest one that is actually one instead of the “Irish pub” in my city that’s really just a sports bar with a flashy theme is in Austin. It’s so much better than any bar I’ve been to. It feels like a home because there are books to read, guitars to play, video games as well as pool and pinball, and the food is properly cooked.

    I saw this come up on my YouTube video feed. I’ll give it a watch.
     
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    An Irish pub in the republic is still in the same role ,not just a theme park idea ,not all British pubs serve food ,one English pub didn't serve alcohol .
     
  9. Markness

    Markness Young God

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    The one in my city is very smoky and smells like urine stained the floor.

    I watched the video and the part about starting the day as well as ending your day with your phone really stuck out to me. I use my phone a lot for online activity and I have a feeling it contributes to my bad feelings.
     
  10. Kalinychta

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    Keeping your clinical depression under wraps when you meet someone new is totally messed up. It isn’t fair to the person you meet, and it will ultimately shoot you in the foot—you need to deal with your depression and feelings of incompleteness NOW. You seem like a really cool guy. Seriously, you do. But you have to deal with your mental illness and confidence issues on your own. A girlfriend won’t solve them for you.

    Haha what the heck? Your friend attacked you with a “cooking appliance”?? That’s so funny! Was it a spatula?
     
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    taper off slowly you've become habituated to the phone
     
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    Markness Young God

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    Really? My therapist told me not to tell strangers about it until I got to know the person very well. I don’t rule out she also meant to have it taken care of, though.

    It wasn’t a spatula. It had a bowl at the end that was made of iron and my friend thought it would be blunt but a part of it cut my knuckle open. He was doing eskrima which is often associated with just stick fighting but he said it can involve turning anything handheld into a weapon and that’s how the Filipinos kept the Japanese from beating them on land. This friend is from the Philippines so I take his word on it.

    In another post, what did you mean by “porn-video girls”?
     
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    Markness Young God

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    I will have to because I get withdrawal symptoms.
     
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    I'm not great with the tablet ,it's quicker if it's not working!