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I broke down and cried at work

Discussion in 'Help and Support' started by Markness, Mar 19, 2021.

  1. Markness

    Markness Young God

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    I got so overwhelmed with my emotions today that I broke down and cried at work. :( I am just so unhappy with the speed dating event getting postponed once again and having no way out of my situation. I hope I can go to my younger brother and sister in-law’s home after work. I need warmth and comfort.
     
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    BrokenBoy 戯言使い(Nonsense User)

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    I'm sorry. Buy some junk food.
     
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    It's a stressful time for you, but actually you have made lots of steps towards goals, I am impressed by your determination. It's good to cry sometimes. And it's good for people at work to realise we are all human and have days when we are down.

    Sorry your events been cancelled, it's frustrating for you. But it's probably a covid issue still. When everyone's vaccinated it'll be easier to get out and about.
     
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    I hear your pain at the seeming lack of way through things.

    Hang on in there and keep taking one day at a time, and putting one step in front of the other. Looking back you might be able to discern a pattern or a path you have trodden
     
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    VictorR Random Member V.I.P Member

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    It's okay - sometimes it's better to let things out than to hold them in since that might lead to more serious issues down the road.

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    Kalinychta Well-Known Member

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    Watch a funny movie. Laughing will make you feel better.
     
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  7. Aspychata

    Aspychata Serenity waves, beachy vibes

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    I use to cry because of my job. Recently, l worked a place where everything nasty was done to me. Things dropped on the floor to make me fall, my personal items screwed with, and rude customers. Yet, l just decided to roll thru with it. And not respond. Sure at home, l needed to self-medicate but l survived. You will get tougher as you mature, and this seems impossible for you now to understand, but going thru stuff eventually toughens you up and you can stand in a sandstorm and survive.
     
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    zozie Well-Known Member

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    One of my instant-rage pet peeves is when events get rescheduled or cancelled at the last minute. I'm better with friends, but community events—I get so stressed out when there are changes, especially when I've been looking forward to it. So solidarity for your situation, it sounds so frustrating.

    Vent lots here if it helps. <3
     
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    That all sounds stressful. Hope you did get warmth and comfort.
     
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    Try looking at groups for some of your interests so you win to start with because you like it
     
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  11. Kalinychta

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    I agree. When the speed dating meeting does occur, I’m worried that if it doesn’t end up working out for Markness, it will make him feel really bad. Much better to choose an event that involves something he’s interested in, as you said.
     
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    I see what you mean, it's good to have a range of events or interest groups, but for Aspies trying to meet a partner, even Aspies with good communication skills like @Markness, a structured way into relating can be useful. Depends how its run and who's there I guess. And of course, other types of event can lead to meeting someone. It's just pretty stressful to keep having it cancelled I should think.
     
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    Totally. I’m just nervous for him. Maybe in the meantime he can attend a different event.
     
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    That's why it's good as you can get solace that you are interested in it outside of socialising.
     
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    Nope I think America could take months for the vaccine to reach everybody still on!y 9 million people had the jab in the UK out of 70 million
     
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    Thank you to all those who replied. I had a good visit with my younger brother and his wife as well as my favorite nephew, I ate a Big Scoop Blast from Sonic, watched Beavis and Butthead Do America, did a role playing game with some friends, and one of those friends is up for more training in self-defense this Wednesday.
     
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    I apologize that it’s taking a long time to reply to individual messages. It’s in the back of my mind to do so. I’ve just had to focus on some other things and my stomach feels on the sick side today.
     
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    It’s not the same kind of event but the book club group I went to back in January is meeting tomorrow. The bad inclement weather made them cancel their last physical event and I didn’t do the online events (Mainly because I couldn’t make it home from work in time and my laptop is slow) but I’ll go to this upcoming physical event. While it’s not dating, I suppose it’s better than nothing at all.
     
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    Well, the event was disappointing. I did my best to put up with the fact they wanted to meet at a bar but the music playing on the sound system was overpowering, drinking alcohol to fit in hurt my stomach, and I kept getting pushed to the wayside in the discussions.
     
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    You'll get to the point where you are just yourself but it ain't fun but you can't do anything else