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I am a narcissist or just realist and proud of my appearances?

This may sound strainge, I don't know but I have become curiouse to see a picture of you Stardust. Is this just me ??
 
What is your age Stardust.

Honestley if you really thing you have it I would sugest you do seek treatment. If you are young and on't have a family and kids it would be great if you got treatment before that happens becouse people with Narcistic disorder will affect others around them such as their children and husand. .;)

No, I am not attracted to other females, I don't have family and kids and I am 21 years old.
Sorry, but I can't show a pic with me, I've talked about intimate things and I prefer to keep it anonymous.

I am a bit above average looking girls, have very beautiful eyes, pretty face, average body.
And I am aware that I'm not perfect and I have my own flaws too, actually many people told me that I tend to underestimate myself.
 
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A person's behaviours & traits & thinking is almost meaningless until you understand the context in which they emerged.

We have to be careful with these labels. Any time someone does or says almost anything, some person is there to stick labels all over them. It's tempting to do it to ourselves as well. Everything isn't a disorder or merit a diagnosis. Something is wrong with the narrow parameters of 'normal' in the west (probably true in many places as well). It may be perfectly normal for one person to admire their image with frequency but not so much so for someone else (if they're skipping work to stay home & admire their reflection or begin seeing that reflection as another person entirely).

I agree with you. Maybe I've become obsessed of my look because I have been criticized/complimented too much. For example, when I was little, I was very pale and people thought I was sick and for the same reason, kids bullied me, so I started to put makeup on from a very young age. After that, people started to compliment me very often or stopped me on the street to tell how pretty I am. Even now I'm sometimes dreaming that people tell me I'm too pale and I look ugly. It seems that it had a very negative influence on me.

Sorry for my english.
 
Don't worry: your English is fine. So long as people can read it, it's perfectly good. Many people here come from non-English speaking countries (I use French) & many never had the chance to finish school so writing is tough for them too.

I've gotten many compliments about my looks & people react with astonishment when they find out how old I really am. The thing with me is that (some might call this Narcissistic too...) but I never gave enough of a hoot about what they thought for it to affect me. I find the comments invasive & my appearance to be none of anyone's business.


Well, I just took the test (thanks to Smith & Stardust) & scored a whopping 6.
 
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It's a cultural standard. There is nothing wrong with caring about your looks or even having a high opinion of them, unless it harms your life or relationships. Just don't talk about it to NT's, it breaks one of their social rules.

for instance I am a bodybuilder and when nature calls me into the bathroom for other reasons, I admit I pause a moment and check the mirror to see how I am doing. But I don't let anyone catch me doing it.
 
No, I am not attracted to other females, I don't have family and kids and I am 21 years old.
Sorry, but I can't show a pic with me, I've talked about intimate things and I prefer to keep it anonymous.

I am a bit above average looking girls, have very beautiful eyes, pretty face, average body.
And I am aware that I'm not perfect and I have my own flaws too, actually many people told me that I tend to underestimate myself.

I understnad that.
 
I was married to a narcissist for over twenty years. She had a strong sense of entitlement and high expectations of herself and others. She required a lot of attention and reassurance. Fortunately she did not manipulate people and use them for her selfish interests. These are the really dangerous qualities of narcissism: intense selfish and manipulative behavior combined with a lack of concern for the well-being of others. Just looking in the mirror and admiring yourself is actually pretty harmless.
 
Yeah, but I'm not just looking in the mirror. As I said, most of the time I'm doing other things, like playing games, listening music or reading something on the internet. It's only when I go out and make myself beautiful, I just like the way I look. What made me also to think that there could be more than that and I didn't mention is that once I had a dream in which I was kissing with MYSELF. Yep. I also dreamt sometimes that I'm looking in the mirror and think that I'm very pretty. However, sometimes I'm dreaming that people make fun of me and say that I look weird and ugly. So I was wondering from where is this preoccupation with my own look? Could it be a mark from my childhood?
 
Sometimes I feel horny about my appearance. I imagine that if I would have been a guy, I would want to **** me. Could this be abnormal?



I think that it may be abnormal to type what you just did so that we would have to read it. It is upsetting to me to read this.
 
I was married to a narcissist for over twenty years. She had a strong sense of entitlement and high expectations of herself and others. She required a lot of attention and reassurance. Fortunately she did not manipulate people and use them for her selfish interests. These are the really dangerous qualities of narcissism: intense selfish and manipulative behavior combined with a lack of concern for the well-being of others. Just looking in the mirror and admiring yourself is actually pretty harmless.

I'm married to a Narcissist also. You are right about the above. Mine is also aspergers His mom was aspergers. He lacks in concern and well being for his son.
 
@ Donein: In my opinion, reading this didn't upset me in the least. Plus, one person getting upset at what another said doesn't make what the speaker said necessarily abnormal.
 
I agree with Soup. If it is or is not normal, I don't find it upsetting either. It is just a concern she has about herself that she wants someones opinoion on.
 
@Donein, I think I was just being honest about myself and tried to not be hypocrite, didn't intend to upset anyone. Never masturbated to my own image or done something 'controversial' so I don't feel like it is something I should be embarrassed of. Not on a forum where nobody knows me. Of course, I don't tell anyone in my life about these issues, because I know that some people could be very judgmental and then I would feel really bad about myself.

And I think everybody has his own dirty little secrets. For sure you're not a saint either.
 
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Are you on the autistic spectrum? There is a possibility that your appearance fascinates you as a separated visual version of yourself. I heard a lot that aspies/auties see the person in the mirror as different to themselves.

Narcissism is a spectrum also, but there is a lot of complex psychological issue behind it. Put simply, it is a superiority complex which is born of an inferiority complex. Do you know that you are better than your peers? When they are wrong, they should admit it and apologise to you. It is rarely, if ever your fault etc Do you take any enjoyment from punishing others either mentally or physically? If yes, then it would be best for peace of mind to find out in therapy.

However, it is rare that a narcissist will admit the condition or ask if it is true, so if the answer is no to the statements above, then you are probably not narcissistic personality.
 
I scored 19 on that test but I would expect that of myself. I'm not a narcissist but, I know my talents and my skills. I know I can look good if I choose to or, I can fade into the crowd. I usually prefer blending in but, there are occasions where that is not my preference.

I don't see anything wrong with looking good and knowing it, admiring it and, liking it, even being attracted to your own appearance. As long as it is genuine and, you really do look that good. Looking fabulous takes effort and, if you have put in the effort, you deserve to admire yourself for it.
 
I think the original poster is consumed with vanity, not reality, whether or not she is narcissistic. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I'm a little surprised the thread cooperated for so long. Narcissists count on finding people who will admire and who won't compete: takes care of both the insecurity and the superiority issue simultaneously.

Mix in a little machiavellianism, and a narcissist becomes smart enough to admit "just enough" of what they don't recognize because that helps fool other people. Donein made a point that unfortunately was expressed badly. This does feel to me like a thread that was used with an agenda.
 

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